Dear Prudence,
I had a serious falling out with my younger brother after he became extremely aggressive toward my then-boyfriend. Several months later, I discovered a tracker in my bag and finally understood that my boyfriend was a controlling douchebag.
The problem is that my family is now pressuring me to apologize and make up with my brother because he was “looking out for me” and I was “wrong” about my boyfriend. I just don’t believe that is how this works. Whatever his intentions, my brother crossed some serious boundaries, became physically violent, and insulted both my partner and me. I’m not willing to draw a line under that, and I am also sick to death of men behaving badly. Am I wrong? Do you have a script for telling my family to back off? They don’t seem to be getting my point of view at all.