Dear Prudence,
I don’t have kids, but many of my friends do, and some very unkind things are being said about the baby of one friend, “Marlayna,” behind her back. The running joke is that we should start up a plastic surgery fund for her daughter because she “looks like a botched abortion.” I find this extremely off-putting. Would it be appropriate for me to say something to them about their insensitive comments or tell Marlayna what they’ve been saying about her baby?