Wedding Woes

Do not say anything

Dear Prudence,

My sister’s son attends an expensive pre-K program. When I asked her how she and her husband were able to afford it when we met for lunch one day, she told me something that left me reeling: She knows a man through her work who has a foot fetish. Apparently, he pays her the cost of her son’s tuition in exchange for several sessions each week where he gets to … do things with her feet. She’s been telling her husband that she got a promotion at work. When I told her this was essentially prostitution, she argued it wasn’t on the grounds that there’s no intercourse involved. I think what she is doing is appalling. Is it my place to say something to my brother-in-law?

Re: Do not say anything

  • I think you made your opinion known.

    I would leave it as, "What I consider you to be doing is not something I would be OK with my spouse doing.  That your H is not aware is IMO a violation in your marriage.  I won't tell on you but if this ever comes up do not expect me to lie for you either." 


  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
    Knottie Warrior 10000 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    I don't think LW has a "trust your spouse" issue, I think LW (and presumably the person's spouse) has an issue with sex work.

    To which I reply, STFU and mind your own damn business.
  • Sit down and shut up. It's a weird side hustle, but she's not hurting anyone. Trust issues between your sister and her husband are none of your business. 

    It sounds like you're just looking for some drama or trying to be invasive. Who asks someone how they can afford preschool? 
  • ei34ei34 member
    Knottie Warrior 2500 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    Yeah so much of this just screams “not your business”. 
  • Ask invasive questions ("How were you guys possibly able to afford this?"), get more than you needed to know as an answer (sometimes), and have to sit on that information,
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