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Why do weddings make people insane

CasadenaCasadena member
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Dear Prudence,

My sister is getting married in less than two months. I was supposed to be her matron of honor, but the thing is that I am currently almost six months pregnant and just learned I have pregnancy-related hypertension. My doctor instructed me to avoid stress, which would certainly come with all my responsibilities surrounding the wedding. Immediately after I found out, I called my sister to tell her about my diagnosis and that I wouldn’t be able to be in the wedding party. Instead of being understanding, she threw a fit over my “springing” this on her “at the last minute.” Explaining that this was something I hadn’t anticipated and had no control over did nothing to extinguish her fury. Given her reaction, I’m now considering not attending the wedding at all (which my husband supports). Would that be for the best?

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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Honestly, I'd stand by my decision, but I wouldn't make any other decisions about attending.  2 months is a long time.  I'd let the fires simmer down, still plan to attend, and just let this particular thing fade.  After the wedding, I might talk to sister and ask for an apology (if it hasn't been given).  Weddings do make people behave in completely unhinged ways, all people, and I will never understand why.
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    MyNameIsNot said:
    She's an asshole, but also why would you jump immediately to dropping out instead of telling her you wouldn't be able to do whatever stressful thing you thought was going to be a problem? 
    This x1000. She’s ridiculous but also so are you for immediately saying you can’t do anything when you could have handled this so much differently. 

    I think weddings, and pregnancy, make people behave irrationally. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    I need more information. Another ESH, but I'm wondering if sister was already asking for a million "duties" to be fulfilled so LW just backed out instead of trying to say what she was capable of. God weddings make people insane. 


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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    If this was her sister's reaction, I 100% believe LW that being in the wedding party would be stressful.
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    VarunaTT said:
    If this was her sister's reaction, I 100% believe LW that being in the wedding party would be stressful.
    This is why "I can't" with people like the LW's sister.

    My hairdresser got frightening lab results the day before my wedding.  They indicated cancer and her doctor sent her to the hospital for further exams and lab work.  From the hospital and scared, this woman still thought to call her salon and arrange for another person to take my wedding hair appointment for the next morning.  She then called my mom to let her know what happened.

    THAT was last minute and my hairdresser, not even my sister.  But I certainly wasn't mad.  I wasn't upset about what might happen to my hair because that was such a minor issue in the grand scheme of things.  I was worried about her.

    She was my mom's regular hairdresser and my mom followed up with her later.  I don't remember the specific details, but she was diagnosed with cancer.  It was thankfully caught early and it wasn't aggressive.  She did make a full recovery.
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