Dear Prudence,
My sister has always oozed main character syndrome. She has little empathy and a total addiction to drama. She doesn’t understand basic social give and take, like offering gas money when someone gives you a ride or occasionally picking up the check for a group of friends. As far as my sister is concerned, the world owes her not only a living, but a personal parade. It’s recently gotten so much worse.
I try to stay as far away as possible from her, but after my company crashed, I found myself moving back home. My sister never moved out. She works a part-time job and has a parade of different boyfriends passing through her bedroom. Of course, she got pregnant. You would think she was carrying the heir to the throne from the way she acts.
What few chores she did, she now doesn’t have to do because she is having a baby. She complains that our parents (who are still working) aren’t doing enough for her and the baby. She thinks that if she puts thousand-dollar baby items on her wish list and spams enough on social media with posts about being a “poor, single mom,” she will get them.
Her co-workers organized a baby shower where she was given gently worn hand-me-downs, including a pack ‘n play and carrying wraps. My sister called them all used trash, and complained that they didn’t meet her color scheme. Now, she keeps whining about how she doesn’t have any help or a village. She says this in front of our parents, and it makes my blood boil. She will not figure out who the father is and get child support. She won’t even register for government benefits.
We fought because our mom’s car gave out, so she and our dad share one, and I refuse to let my sister drive mine. The last time I lent it to her, she left it without any gas and trashed it beyond belief. She screamed that I needed to step up as an uncle. She asked where the hell her village was. I told her there was no village beyond her being the village idiot. She has spent years failing to cultivate any real friendships and just uses people. I am hurrying up my plans to move out by taking as much overtime as I can. My parents don’t want me to move out, and they will be depending on me when the baby comes. I feel bad for them, but also frustrated because they have zero expectations of my sister. She is five years older than me and acts like a spoiled 15-year-old. What should I do?