Dear Prudence,
I missed my daughter’s wedding due to a medical emergency. I had to have an immediate surgery that had a long recovery time. She was getting married overseas, and I couldn’t even sit up and walk without help. I saw the ceremony via Zoom and thought my daughter understood the circumstances.
We recently fought, and she called me a horrid mother. She said I didn’t even try to see her get married, and it was a mistake for her to even bother with me now. My daughter has always had a quick temper, but she has never stooped so low. If she slapped me, it would have hurt less. I divorced her father after he spent years verbally abusing me like that. She later apologized, but since then, she has made the same accusation against me several more times.
Recently, she did it on a family vacation in front of her siblings. It started a huge fight, and my son asked my daughter to leave early. Now her sister doesn’t want her at her upcoming wedding, where she was to be the maid of honor. She hasn’t told her sister yet, but my daughter is refusing to apologize and has said she is owed an apology instead of being kicked out by her brother. I don’t know what to do here. I feel like every move is the wrong one. Help!
—Missed Wedding