Dear Prudence,
My twin sister “Allie” and I will be turning 30 early next year, and our older sister offered to throw us a party. Allie would love to have a party. I hate being the center of attention, so I don’t really want to have a party. Of course, there’s no reason that Allie can’t have a solo party. My problem is, I’d love to attend a party, specifically for Allie. She’s the best and I hate to miss out on an opportunity to celebrate her. But it seems unrealistic to think that I’ll show up for my twin sister’s birthday party and no one will acknowledge that it’s also my birthday. I’m a little worried that attending as a guest will actually backfire, and I’ll end up fielding a lot of questions about why it’s only Allie’s party. What’s the best way to handle this situation? Or should I just give up on going to the party and celebrate with Allie at another time?