Dear Prudence,
Earlier this year, my good friends had a small destination wedding. Between travel, accommodation, clothing, and gifts, I spent several thousand dollars. Initially, I was happy to do it. But now I’m not so sure.
At the reception, each guest received a heartfelt, handwritten letter from the couple. It was a beautiful gesture. However, I found out later that the letters were also in lieu of thank you cards. Am I wrong to feel like attending a destination wedding and giving an expensive gift should also warrant a thank you card in the mail? I know some people might find it old-fashioned, but I’m a millennial and I still feel like a proper thank you after a wedding, especially an expensive destination one, is important!
—Overreacting or Underappreciated?