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Unhappy about my wedding, how do I get past it?

knottie504391e4a53fbc48knottie504391e4a53fbc48 newb
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To preface this, I initially wanted to elope, but my fiancé wanted a wedding. We initially agreed on a small wedding with 50 guests or fewer, but it has grown to over 60 people. We invited some aunts and uncles that I don't even like because we felt we had to, and my fiancé agreed.

There's no going back now, but it's still really bothering me. I need to let this go, but I can't seem to stop feeling negative about my wedding.
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Re: Unhappy about my wedding, how do I get past it?

  • MNNEBrideMNNEBride member
    Knottie Warrior 2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    Focus on the fact that regardless of how it happens, or who is in attendance, at the end of the day, you are marrying the person you love.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I agree with @MNNEBride.  At this point unless you cancel the entire event and elope, own the plans and focus on the outcome.

    IMO - that's the point right?  I haven't seen it a lot lately but when I got married nearly 19 years ago the focus was "the happiest day of your life" Or "The best day of your life" and....life wasn't all downhill from there.  It was the official start that DH and I were married and that started OUR family together with the twists and turns that happens as we faced those challenges together.  The event is something that you plan and get through.  Make it as pleasing to you as possible with what exists and know that you have your partner with you. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    You can't uninvite people, so unless you cancel the whole event and elope instead, you're still having the event. Can you identify where the feelings are coming from? Is it because you feel steamrolled by your fiancé's desires for the wedding? That's a communication issue and needs to be worked out before you get married. Is it because you just don't like crowds or big events? Try building in some quiet time for you and FI (pictures with the two of you during cocktail hour, get ready earlier and spend an hour together before the ceremony and reception with a glass of champagne, etc). But remember there shouldn't be any gaps during the wedding. 

    We put a lot of pressure on a wedding to be "the bestest day ever!" Focus on the moments that matter. Getting married to your FI, celebrating with people you love (I'm assuming there's at least some people you're excited to see). Even if you wanted a big to do, there are always things that will go wrong on the day of. Focus on the reason for the event over the event itself to help keep your mind clear and level headed. 


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