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sick of scavenger hunts

CasadenaCasadena member
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Dear Prudence,

My wife loses everything! Phone, keys, wallet, chargers, papers, rings, water bottles, bags, shoes, other articles of clothing, sentimental gifts, you name it. She even loses digital items. I am completely the opposite. I almost always know where everything is, physically and digitally. I even have all my emails neatly organized by folders. When we were dating, I found this rather cute, and I loved helping her find her missing things. But I can’t take it anymore! I’m also worried about what this would look like with kids and the implications of losing their things, as we want to have children in the near future.

How can I help her keep track of items? We put AirTags in her wallet and on her keys, but we can’t AirTag everything she has. She’s medicated for ADHD, and while it helps in a lot of areas, this isn’t one of them. Any advice would be appreciated!

—Sick of Scavenger Hunts

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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    This is so minuscule to me. 

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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    I'm with you @CharmedPam. I feel personally offended on wifes' behalf likely bc this is the kind of stupid silly stuff that my H gets just absolutely beside himself about. Like, airtag the stuff you can, and if she loses her own clothes, rings, photos , etc - let her. Theres major limit to how much this is your problem. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    There's a point where your answer is "I'm not buying you that nice jewelry if you keep losing it." 

    But it speaks IMO to a larger issue of executive functioning.   I'd really see if she's open to working with a counselor.  It's the next step that we're taking with Chiquita because it's a major issue of organizational abilities and her way of dealing with trash.   She's old enough to not leave KT tape wrappers on the floor next to food waste. 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    This is not your problem. Airtag the important stuff and let her lose her water bottles. 

    I swear, I do not understand meeting, dating and deciding to marry a person who does X, and then writing to Prudie years later about how to get them to stop X. 
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