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Casadena · April 30

Dear Prudence,

My ex appropriated parts of my career in his obituary. I divorced, “Ned,” in the ‘90s after 10 years of unhappiness. His career was in radio announcing; mine was in TV news. Several months ago, he died. His online obituary claims he wrote news stories for a TV station that employed me—not him. The only time he visited the newsroom was to bring me food on the night shift. There’s also a claim that he wrote news stories for another newsroom I worked in. He never set foot in the building. He even omitted certain parts of his career in favor of the lies.

He claimed to have written news stories for newspapers large and small, despite having no journalism education or experience. His radio experience was almost all ad-libbing; he didn’t even know how to write a news story. He occasionally called in a news tip to the newspaper, but that was all. Ned’s obituary features friends and family praising his intellect and skills: He was a nice guy, so talented, blah, blah. What should I do?

ei34 · April 30

Eh. If there's nothing that paints you with a tainted brush, I'd leave it alone. Definitely weird of him. But, it'll be the last weird thing he did.

CharmedPam · April 30

You can’t erase these words. Just move on and let those who read it, think it.

MyNameIsNot · April 30

Is this a normal thing for people to write their own obits? When we've lost people in my family, the survivors wrote them.

But who cares. If he was saying all this on a resume that he was submitting to compete with you for a job, sure. But he's dead. Who gives a shit whether some random people think his career was better than it was?

levioosa · May 4

MyNameIsNot said:

Is this a normal thing for people to write their own obits? When we've lost people in my family, the survivors wrote them.

But who cares. If he was saying all this on a resume that he was submitting to compete with you for a job, sure. But he's dead. Who gives a shit whether some random people think his career was better than it was?

I have seen people write their own when it’s been a long terminal illness, but otherwise family or friends write them. For all we know these could all be things he told family and they put them in his obit. What would LW gain from blasting it other than to make herself look terrible and petty? It’s annoying, for sure, but he’s literally dead. If there was some sort of more impact to LW (like him taking credit for a scientific finding or something) that might be different but this seems annoying and harmless overall.

banana468 · May 4

This seems weird but I'd let it go. I also question if this person wrote out what he did and either wrote it maliciously or if he's not remembering his past correctly. If they got divorced in the 90s after being together 10 years we're talking people who are senior citizens. Could Ned have memory issues?

I'd just tilt my head and let it go.

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