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proposal petulance

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Dear Prudence,

My sister “Nina” got married in early April, and she’s still angry over something my boyfriend did during the wedding reception. No, he didn’t get wasted, knock over the wedding cake, or make an unwanted pass at anyone. His crime? He proposed to me on the dance floor. After I accepted, people stopped dancing to briefly congratulate us, and then we all went back to having fun. Nina, however, says I completely “upstaged” her and accused me of trying to ruin her wedding by taking the attention away from her!

Now my sister is demanding that I apologize and says she won’t speak to me until I do.  She’s even dragged our mom into the act, and now my mom is on my case about it, too. I honestly had no idea my boyfriend was planning to propose to me at her wedding; it was just a pleasant surprise. My boyfriend says I have nothing to apologize for, and my mom and sister are completely out of line. I agree with him, but a part of me wonders if I should just give Nina a fake apology to restore peace in the family. Good idea, or should I stand my ground?

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Re: proposal petulance

  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    It didn’t upstage her. While I personally think it’s tacky to propose at someone else's wedding, sister should be mad at LW’s future intended and ask for an apology. And then just move on. 

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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    It's pretty shitty to propose at someone else's wedding and the fact that LW seems to think it's a totally normal thing to do makes me wonder if she really had no idea it was going to happen. But yeah, "I'm sorry he did that. I wasn't expecting it and was trying to quickly accept and get back to dancing to avoid making a big display of it at your wedding" is plenty. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    It was pretty shitty and you should apologize. Should she refuse to talk to you forever? No. Did it upstage her whole wedding? Also no. But this was a brat move on FI's part. 


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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Your FI was wrong and should have picked a different time.  I feel he owes the apology, not LW.
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  • downtondivadowntondiva member
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    I think your FI should apologize, or if he won't then you should so you can all put this behind you.

    No, he didn't ruin Nina's wedding by proposing to you, but it wasn't appropriate to do it without getting the okay from the marrying couple first.
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