I would also recommend etsy. I have found some really great things on there. Although for my hair I'm going to be doing a DIY project. I'm going to be putting the flower in my hair after I take off my veil so more for the reception.
I bought mine at a little store in Woodbridge Center Mall outside of D*ck's Sporting Goods (the knot finds the store name offensive). They were much cheaper than any website I looked at and I loved the piece I picked out. It was $46.
I borrowed a friends who got hers at kleinfelds. Its a Maria Elena. She has beautiful headpieces. http://www.mariaelenaheadpieces.com The site may give you some ideas.
I bought mine thorugh headpieceheavan. The piece was hand made by a NJ company. I got to choose all the specifics of the piece. The hair vine was even more beautiful in person. I went with the light gold becuase it went well with my dress, which is a caramel/light gold color.
Re: Day of Hair Accessory
http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/photogallery/paper-and-fabric-flowers#slide_26
http://www.headpieceheaven.com/WaterLilesHaloBunWrap.html
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