The one thing I can't decide :'-(

Re: The one thing I can't decide :'-(

• kwuertz

  

  September 2012 edited September 2012

  So sorry for your loss! I can't imagine how tough that must be
  
  I've been to weddings that have been alcohol-free and absolutely beautiful and fun. The last thing you want on your wedding day is to have anxiety over something like this!! It is completely legitimate and understandable for you to be stressed about it (especially with it being not too long after your friend passed away). You can create a fun, memorable reception for everyone that YOU will also have fun at-- without alcohol. Don't worry about other people getting upset with you if you choose to go the route of alcohol-free. Yes, you want people to celebrate with you, but in the end, they are celebrating YOU and the new step of your journey together-- they are not celebrating an open bar. Do what you feel best about- if that's going alcohol-free, it's no one's business to judge you for it. It will be a great time even without it

  

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• achiduck member

  

  September 2012

  I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. In your case I would probably have a dry wedding. There are lots of ways to have a great bar without having alcohol. Bring in old style sodas, have a sparkling cider toast instead of champagne, virgin drinks, etc.

  
  

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• KatWAG member

  

  September 2012

  You can always provide transportation form the ceremony to venue and then to the hotels so that people dont have to drive if they dont want to.

  

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• BriLeigh89 member

  

  September 2012

   I think I will tell my FI I want a dry reception. If I had the money I would do the transportation idea but we are doing this on a slim budget. I've never been to a dry reception so I wasn't sure they existed. I thought it was expected. Thank you all for your support! Now I just have to try to accept the fact that one of the most comforting smiles won't be there. I am going to try my best not to post too much about it. I apologize if I post in the future.

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• azdancer8 member

  

  September 2012

  There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a dry reception. One of the reasons DH and I chose to have one was out of respect for his parents and their past struggles with alcohol. If I was in your situation, I would not want alcohol at the wedding either.

  
  

  I'm sorry for your loss.

  
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• Avion22 member

  

  September 2012

  If you think you need a dry reception, then have one.  It's not worth being upset and worried all night if you have alcohol.

  
  

  But, transportation options don't have to be expensive.  I've heard of people using off-duty school buses and school bus drivers.  We used off-duty university transit buses.  Some hotels offer shuttles for free if you block rooms there.   If you think this could work for you, then you might be able to find an inexpensive option.

  
  

  If you don't think transportation will ease your fears, then go for the dry wedding.  It will still be fun and beautiful and amazing:-)

  

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• BriLeigh89 member

  

  September 2012

  thank you all! I just had a convrsation with his family we were all very close because we all went to school together  and close in age. They like my idea so I will try to go with that. only my grandpa drinks and FSMIL.

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• danielleper03

  

  September 2012

  Yeah. go dry.
  
  You could do mocktails (virgin cocktails) and alcohol free beer (o'douls?) if people really want to drink something with a similar flavor. (i like beer for the flavor, not the alcohol which is good cuz in Utah it's only 3.2). I agree with what a PP said- If they can't hang out without a drink for a couple hours, they have some much deeper issues to work out.
  
  And so so sorry for your loss. I lost a very dear friend in a car accident due to drowsy driving years ago and my heart still aches for his loss.

  

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