opinionated people

mollysaran · March 2011

How are you all dealing with people who think they can make decitions about your wedding or who ask questions and put you on the spot in front of other people ???
examples: a friend of mine said you better not serve your food buffet style be cause the last tables wont get any, you better get servers .... ( thats exactly how she worded it & was kinda rude when she said it & servers will cost us 600 extra , we are paying for it all ourselves ) i had an aunt ask me in front of my mother if my mother is walking me down the isle , i had planned for my father to do so ( parents divorced) and my aunt also told a friend of mine she could sit at the reserved family table !!!! is that not my decition ???? now i'm stuck between a rock and a hard place

how are you dealing with issues like these please help

Butter Cookie · March 2011

After the initial seating people will probably move around to different tables.

Tell your friend with the oh-so-wise buffet advice when she gets married she can plan her wedding however she likes.

"It isn't up for discussion" is my favorite line.

TheDuckis · March 2011

decition? really? How old are you?

mrsconn23 · March 2011

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[QUOTE]How are you all dealing with people who think they can make decitions about your wedding or who ask questions and put you on the spot in front of other people ??? examples: a friend of mine said you better not serve your food buffet style be cause the last tables wont get any, you better get servers .... ( thats exactly how she worded it & was kinda rude when she said it & servers will cost us 600 extra , we are paying for it all ourselves ) i had an aunt ask me in front of my mother if my mother is walking me down the isle , i had planned for my father to do so ( parents divorced) and my aunt also told a friend of mine she could sit at the reserved family table !!!! is that not my decition ???? now i'm stuck between a rock and a hard place :( how are you dealing with issues like these please help
Posted by mollysaran[/QUOTE]

First of all...It's "decision" and "aisle".

Secondly, stop talking to people who aren't paying for your wedding about your wedding. If someone gives their opinion, ignore it and move on. It's not that hard.

ReturnOfKuus · March 2011

Damn it all, I thought you were calling for opinionated people. Harrumph.

mollysaran · March 2011

sorry , decision , i'm french and sometimes when i type fast everything is not 100% spelled correctly , but this is about my needing advice & not about my spelling ...LOL

tortaweeni · March 2011

One thing I kept telling my slef is "It is my wedding. I am paying for it. This fits me and my fiance the best so we are going with it. Too bad for people who dont like."

Then after you tell the opinonated people that as well have a gladd of wine and put on your fav tv show, movie, read a book. You should do somthing you enjoy after becuase it makes it a lot easier to deal with. Also make sure you have people to back you up. My parents, aunt and maid of honor will definatley say "it is her wedding leave her alone" and deal with them for me. Make sure you have that too!

ReturnOfKuus · March 2011

Tell them all that it'll be a surprise when they get to the wedding. It's like saying "none of your business" but in a nice way.

TheDuckis · March 2011

I have never been to a buffet wedding where they ran out of food. But if your friend were my friend I would be making sure she gets seated at the last table served.

mollysaran · March 2011

LMAO .... too funny .... once i tell her that shes not sitting at the reserved tables with my family maybe i will make sure she gets a nice table out back

zsazsa-stl · March 2011

When I was pricing reception food served plates were actually cheaper than buffets.

Smile, nod and move on. The people telling you this are rude. It's okay to ignore the advice.

NOLABridesmaid · March 2011

I think you came to the wrong place<looking around>

LoveMuffins · March 2011

To Friend (with a smile): "You better be offering to help pay if you're gonna be making demands on things that cost money."

To Aunt: No

To Friend that Aunt told could sit at your table: "I'm really sorry about my Aunt, she has nothing to do with planning, but I can promise you that you'll be at a table where there will be people you know / you'll have a lot of fun."

mollysaran · March 2011

Thanks i think thats how i should handle it

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