Vows?

ekk120 · February 2012

Hi girls!

So I know its pretty early to think about vows -- but thats why Im glad Im doing it now! Everytime I sit down to work on them, I start bawling like a baby! I'm not sure how Im going to get through them on the day of...

But I was wondering:

Traditional vows or writing your own?

If you've started them, how long are they? I dont want to ramble on or anything, but I dont want to rush through them either.

Are you saying anything funny? Im trying to find the right balance of funny/romantic.

I would post this on the Vows board, but as I have mentioned before, I am very scared to post on other boards because outside of Sept 2012, TK can be a scary world for a girl with feelings

npott044 · February 2012

LOL, TK can be a very scary world!

As for vows we are going to be doing traditional vows. FI is scared he would mess up or forget his in front of 100 people. We do however plan on going to dinner a week or so before and giving our vows to each other on our own.

junebug19 · February 2012

We are saying traditional vows. I like the idea abou giving your vows to each other privately, thats sweet.

jessa1228 · February 2012

We're going to do traditional vows with a little editing so we get a bit of a personal touch to them.

MrsBassPlaya · February 2012

I really want to write ours and mix loving, sentimental, and funny together. I haven't thought much past that, though.

morenachica110 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_vows-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:3a76c6ea-c34f-429d-8bcf-71146a3d8fa3Post:ac0936c9-c0e2-4bc0-b9fc-194df64f631a">Re: Vows?</a>:
[QUOTE]I really want to write ours and mix loving, sentimental, and funny together. I haven't thought much past that, though.
Posted by MrsBassPlaya[/QUOTE]

<div>This. I'm still talking to the officiant, but March and April are CRAZY for her so I'm cool with her getting back to me when she can.</div>

SCogs18 · February 2012

We are traditional vow people, too. The biggest change we made was to take out "until death do us part" and replace it with "as long as we both shall live"

DeadUtopia · February 2012

I could write a beautiful poem, but you get me in front of a crowd of people and that just won't work. Plus, FI is dyslexic (literally) so reading is hard enough for him without a whole church full of people waiting for him to get through it. We're going the easy way out and just repeating traditional vows.

bsims726 · February 2012

We're writing our own vows. Including something funny in mines? No. But I'm nervous that my fiance, who is a bit goofy, will want to include something embarassing about me in his. When the time draws near, I plan to have a stern talk with him about that.

bsims726 · February 2012

We're writing our own vows. Including something funny in mines? No. But I'm nervous that my fiance, who is a bit goofy, will want to include something embarassing about me in his. When the time draws near, I plan to have a stern talk with him about that.

mamameech · February 2012

I have a few idea written down; I really want to make it personal. I am used to speaking in front of big crowds, so that doesn't worry me; the tears and sobbing are another story...

FI is not good with reading or oral presentations, so I'm not sure if he's ok with writting his own. He'll probably just say ditto or high five me LOL

morenachica110 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I have a few idea written down; I really want to make it personal. I am used to speaking in front of big crowds, so that doesn't worry me; the tears and sobbing are another story... FI is not good with reading or oral presentations, so I'm not sure if he's ok with writting his own. He'll probably just say ditto or high five me LOL
Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]

<div>haha We're exactly the same on this. I'm not sure how "sweet" his vows will be. They'll probably just be short, to the point, and funny/embarassing. But... that's why I love him. I <em>have</em> been hinting, though, that I would like a super sweet pre-ceremony letter. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /></div>

lbarr088 · February 2012

We are going with traditional vows. I wanted to write our own but FI doesn't think he has it in him to right something good, and let alone say in in front of 150 people. I don't blame him..

volleygurl0306 · February 2012

I actually just posted something about writing your own but it wasn't answered here so that's okay I guess.

We are actually doing both...our own and traditional. Becuase the traditional vows cover the rich/poor, sickness/health, all the days of our life etc my personal vows are just that....personal! I actually have had them written for months and just make small changes here and there when I read them (I always cry). They aren't meant to be a joke, but they are meant to be light-hearted because even though marriage is serious, it is also happy. And, we are a super playful couple. I focused my personal vows on promises I make to him that mean something to us and are the little things that will make our marriage specifically OURS. So for an example, I promise to let him hold the remote and to squeeze him extra tight for no reason when we ride on his motorcycle. I also promise to keep him as my one and only. So a mix of light-hearted personal and of serious stuff that I want to say in my own words.
As for length they are probably around half a page on Word. I don't want to go on too long either but I don't want to rush through things. I wouldn't stres about length because it's your chance to promise what you want to promise. Regardless, just practice speaking clearly and slowly. I hear the ceremony always goes fast than you think. And, even when you think you are speaking slowly, most likely because of nerves it's faster than you think.

Sarah&Eric2012 · February 2012

Neither FI nor I are good with speaking in front of a lot of people so we're going with the traditional vows but tweaking them a bit (that "obey" thing is getting the boot). I like the idea of personal letters before the ceremony though so I might try to convince him to do that. We're very private people so that seems like a good idea for us.

jacquiroxx · February 2012

We're writing our own. I started mine months ago but keep going back to tweek them. They are 99% sweet, romantic, and serious... with a small inside joke thrown in that both of us are including in our vows.

I am a super sentimental person and I cry at the drop of a dime (thus the reason I started my vows so early- talk about emotional haha). Fi usually bottles everything in and then lets it all go at really opportune times. He's really good at being romantic when the time comes, so I'm sure our vows will be really meaningful and sweet. The inside joke thrown in will probably just lighten the atmosphere, and since our wedding is small everyone in attendance knows us well and will know that it just wouldn't be complete without a little bit of silliness: It's just who we are.

I can't wait for this part of the wedding

jacquiroxx · February 2012

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[QUOTE]We are traditional vow people, too. <strong>The biggest change we made was to take out "until death do us part" and replace it with "as long as we both shall live"</strong>
Posted by SCogs18[/QUOTE]

Edward and Bella did this, too ((::Twihard::)). You aren't, by chance, people-friendly vampires are you?? :p

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