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PLEASE HELP!!! Kinda long!

Katie&JohnMichaelKatie&JohnMichael member
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in Georgia-Atlanta
So we have already sent out our save the dates for our October 30 wedding... but that is not my fear.
Back story- we have a close group of friends and we are pretty much all getting married this year and to make sure that we dont all have the same thing we shared a few ideas with eachother.... and ALL agreed that if we copied eachother we should ask first- and still make sure that the ideas were not too similar... Well one couple just moved in pretty much down the street, and we share a ton of ideas together. I even showed her the proof to the save the date (2 months ago) and then sent them out 3 weeks ago! Now I designed this magnet from scratch and had it made!
Well we get back in town this weekend and we recieved  their save the date... the wedding is 3 weeks before ours- even though they get engaged months after us!
THEY ARE THE EXACT SAME!!!!! SHE LIED to my face about how she was just using simple card stock and everything! NOW everyone in our group has TWO of the same save the dates on their fridge....
I am thinking of confronting her about this because right now lets be honest I want to rip her apart...
Please share your thoughts on if I should confront her or not!
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Re: PLEASE HELP!!! Kinda long!

  • MeganJ26MeganJ26
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    edited December 2011
    Weather or not you should confront her depends on how good your relationship is, and if you want to continue that relationship or not.
    I totally understand being pissed... I would be too, but is it worth loosing the friendship to confronting her about it?
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  • lucyslovedlucysloved member
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    edited December 2011
    Ummm....so, she copied your style and sent out the exact same thing, 3 weeks after you did? If yours went out first, then everyone saw yours first. Other than being a lame a$$ move, I don't wouldn't be upset. It should be obvious to the people who get hers that have recieved yours that she got the idea from you. I'd just quit sharing ideas with her. Let her fend for herself. GL!
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  • TheCranberryTheCranberry member
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    edited December 2011
    I understand you're upset, but it's not that bad in the grand scheme of things.  As a PP said, people saw yours first and will know that she copied it (if they even notice that it is similar).  If you don't want her or others to copy you again, keep your plans to yourself.
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  • Katie&JohnMichaelKatie&JohnMichael member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes I completely agree...
    However I did send her an email... to which she replied to. She basically said that she was sorry but loved the idea. I did tell her that I didnt want it to get between any friendship that we have at all, but that all I could really do in the end was laugh about it... I know that I am getting married to the the most wonderful man in the world, and that in the end that was all that mattered to me anyways.
     BUt it is sad to me now that everyone is calling me and telling me how much in fact that they do not like her at all... and that they do not want them to even get married. ( they are the couple that fights everywhere they go and make everyone feel sad for them...) So now it has put me in an even more terrible place!
    I will continue to be friends with her, but definitly not tell her another detail about the wedding at all!
    Thanks so much for the advice!
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  • annetastic071710annetastic071710 member
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    edited December 2011

    I agree with PP, she sucks, but don't let this ruffle your feathers.

    There will be so many more upsetting things that happen between now and October that will matter so much more. Every time something happens that makes you want to claw someone's eyes out, remember that you are marrying the man of your dreams and this about your LIFE together not one day or a STD... (but again, she sucks for doing that!)

    Also, with that many people getting married at the same time you are going to be CONSTANTLY compare every aspect of your wedding to theirs, and they will do the same. Its natural but it can be hurting. When it is, refer to advice above.... and vent on this board... we'll be here for you!!

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