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TwinsRib
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MOH Didn't show for wedding... Haven't heard from her!
Ok Ladies, I'm having an issue. As most of you know, my hubby and I wed last month on October 8th. On October 7th, the morning before the rehearsal dinner, my best friend since 10th grade (and MOH) texts me that she is having trouble renting a car because of this and that (I'm not big on excuses and nobody had died so...)
She said she couldn't drive her car because her mom needed it and she didn't know if she was gonna make it to the wedding. OK... that was the last time I talked to her. She didn't call to confirm that she wasn't coming. Wedding day comes and goes. No call to congratulate. No call to apologize. Nothing. Not even a text.
So now, 39 days later, I'm ready to just say eff her. I feel that clearly I valued our friendship more than she and for her to not even acknowledge that she had MORE than a full year to plan how to make the 6 hr drive from ATL to Natchez, MS.... I just feel extremely hurt and let down. Do you guys think I should call her? Or just keep on with my life since it doesn't seem to matter to her anyway? Thanks!
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Re: MOH Didn't show for wedding... Haven't heard from her!
That's always my first thought - are they actually OK?
Then tell her to eff off!
No actually, it's probably best to move on and never make contact ever again.
Do you want her to be your friend still, or are you ready to disown her as a friend over this?
Is there any other evidence that she's alive besides Twitter?
AKA GoodLuckBear14
I think I would leave it up to her to contact you.
What you shouldn't do is waste another minute being angry. Why give her the power to ruin you day?
I'm so sorry that she bailed on you! That is abominable behavior. If it were me, I'd probably want some closure from her, either to get a possible apology, or to let her know how hurt I am because of it. In some ways it feels like just leaving her be lets her off the hook. She hasn't had to hear how hurt you were or face up to her mistake. I think I'd give her a call and get some sort of resolution out of this, whether you just let her know that you are really hurt or get angry and tell her to F off. She needs to realize that her actions have consequences and that the loss of a friendship might be one of them.
I wouldn't reach out to her, she obviously has no interest in the friendship, so why should you?
I mean, if you call and she won't talk to you, fine. That's that. But if she's your friend, how can you not at least try to make sure she's all right?
I don't know, I just feel like people don't typically not show up to their best friend's weddings unless there's something seriously wrong in their lives.