Here is a little of how not to treat a bridesmaid.
Please include any significant other on the invitation. It doesn't matter if he/she will not be able to attend it is a very nice gesture to include them on the invitation. Getting an invitation just addressed to the 'maid and not her "short-boyfriend" is kinda a slap in the face. I'm traveling hundreds of miles to attend this and I can't have an extra name on the invitation?
The brides family welcomed me into their house the night before the wedding, which was very nice. BUT after the rehearsal dinner, I had to go set up the reception site because I was with the family. No option to go to sleep since the I had a long day of travel, sitting on the airplane for over 3 hours, in a different time zone than my body is used to, etc.
Your bridesmaid gift is jewlery for the wedding and a bag in the wedding colors. The bag wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't in her wedding colors. Nice colors, just not any colors I would ever use in my wardrobe, so it sits in a closet.
The day of the wedding the brides mother wonderfully hosts all the brides maids over for an early brunch before getting hair and makeup done. This is the last food we will see until the reception. So going from 10am to about 7pm. The bridal party and family had to stay after the ceremony to finish taking pictures. By the time the bridal party got to the reception almost all the food was gone. It was VERY slim pickings for the people that were supposed to be nearest and dearest to the bride and groom. Of course the bride and groom had plates made for them before the other guests go in line for the buffet.
The lack of food is not too surprising because as we were putting the reception site together the night before. The bride's mother made a comment to me as we were putting the chairs under the tables of something like this, "I hope no more than 200 people come. That's all the chairs and food we order. Who knows how many invitations we sent out!"
After the wedding the groom's sister and brother-in-low very nicely drove me to a hotel at the airport. I was told by the bride before leaving that they had already reserved and paid for the hotel room. As I was checking out the next day they asked for my payment. Thankfully I could afford the hotel, and it could have been an honest mistake. It still just put an sour-er taste in my mouth after this wedding.
I gave the bride and groom a check for their wedding present since it was a lot more travel friendly. I gave it about two months after they got back from their honeymoon to ask the bride about the check because it hadn't cleared my account yet. She texted me back and said we got it. Thanks! That was the ONLY thanks I got for the entire wedding. I got NO thank you card. I would've been happy with a Christmas card that had a little note saying thanks.
Please be grateful for your bridesmaids.