pls help- one groomsmen in the navey will he stick out in photos

solowalker18 · June 2010

One of the groomsmen is in the navey and asked me if i want/can he wear is dress whites. I thought this was cool at first and now i think about the pictures and how much he is going to stick out. It will draw everyones attention to him and be a distraction in the picture. (not that i need all focus on me but it is me and my soon to be husbands wedding not the groomsmen ) I'm just wondering what i should do is it just horrible to tell him no, are people going to ask me why every 5 seconds on the wedding day. Thanks.

opalsky007 · June 2010

Don't worry about him sticking out--you're right, it's your wedding day, and everyone will know who the bride and groom are.

Consider it an honor that he wants to wear his Navy dress whites for you. They are only worn on very special occasions.

hugz415 · June 2010

I agree with the PP. Feel honored. Don't worry about him sticking out. You and your hubby will be easy to pick out!

Also, since you already told him yes, I personally feel that it would be disrespectful to ask him to change.

stephweinstein · June 2010

I'm not sure that I agree with PP. I think you may find that he will stick out like a sore thumb!

I know I always notice a man in uniform first (hehe) and this may not be what you want for your pictures.

If you ask me, you should be the only person in white!

Goodluck!

waltzingmatilda13 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm not sure that I agree with PP. I think you may find that he will stick out like a sore thumb! I know I always notice a man in uniform first (hehe) and this may not be what you want for your pictures. <span style="font-weight:bold;"> If you ask me, you should be the only person in white!</span> Goodluck!
Posted by stephweinstein[/QUOTE]

This is such an asinine comment to make.

He can wear his uniform to whatever formal event he chooses, and you should be honored that he chooses to wear it to your wedding.

Sue-n-Kevin · June 2010

He's serving his country with distinction, I'm sure. He willingly joined the armed services, and has you as presumably good friends. It's an honor to have an active serviceman in your wedding, and he's taking the time to attend.

If it bothers you too much, that he'll "stick out", have the pictures arranged so he's behind one of the other groomsmen, so his uniform is not seen. Frankly, I think it will be great to have him wear it.

cmkuno · June 2010

I think it would be really cool for him to wear his dress whites at your wedding!

While I can understand your concern that he'll stick out, I really don't think it'll be a big deal. As Sue suggested, you could place him behind someone else so only half his body is showing in pics to minimize the distraction. And besides, how many groomsmen pics are you going to display anyway? Probably one? Not worth hurting his feelings IMO. I'd be honored by the gesture and thank him graciously.

Nicole386 · June 2010

I think it will look very classy for him to be in his whites. People will think it's cool; no one will need to ask why is he wearing his uniform - it's pretty obvious that miliitary people wear them on special occasions. I think it will add a unique touch to your wedding photos, and absolutely will not be distracting.

samurai21 · June 2010

Yes, it is horrible to tell him no.

No, he won't stick out in photos or steal your thunder.

No, guests won't be asking why every five minutes, and if they do you need new friends.

Yes, you need to stop being ridiculous.

kayla7231 · June 2010

And I should add - my FI just told me there is no reason this should be offensive to him and that ALL sailors (officer and enlisted) are required to have BOTH dress blue and whites, so this shouldn't cause him any hardship, nor should be be offended by your request!!

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