Ok, so my fiancee and I got engaged during the holdidays at my parent's house and are planning to get married this summer (we are both off work in the summer). Seems really fast, I know. But as most of you ladies know, when you know, you know.
Here's the problem: my mom. She very quickly made our engagement about her. And I don't mean by starting to plan everything, I mean the exact opposite. She loves my fiancee, I feel like she loves him more than she loves me at times. (I'm not overexaggerating) She was going on and on about how small her ring was and how we needed to switch and blah blah blah. She wasn't interested in celebrating with us, I wanted to take everyone to lunch and she got all offended that it was an open invite. Hello, it was the holidays and my whole family was there....so needless to say, my 2 brothers, fiancee and I had lunch.
She has made no effort to help me plan at all. Hasn't offered to help, nothing. (My parents favor my 17 year old brother and have never been shy about it) I've asked her several times to help in small ways. For example: I asked her if she would go with me to try on dresses (she lives an hour away and she doesn't work) I offered to schedule it on a weekend, around her schedule, etc. But no. It's "too far of a drive" and "I should be the one to go down there of I need her so badly." Lots of what I feel are mean comments, "suggestions" that are ridiculous, no intent to help at all. We're paying for EVERYTHING.
I'm drained. I'm sad. I'm mad. All I can do is cry and it's not helping me at all. I keep trying to push this away because I have so much to do but I can't. I wish my mom could stop for 5 seconds and try to understand that I need her but it's not going to happen. Her parent's did everything for her, have helped her in every way possible. I feel like she's just totally selfish! She can afford to help, she has the time. She just won't. I'm the only daughter, I've done everything in life the "right" way, was a good kid, never had problems, etc. Has anyone else dealt with something similar? What do I do here?