Second wedding- should dad give me away again?

Jfarmer11 · April 2011

I am about to be married for the second time, and I'm not sure whether it would be appropriate to have my step-dad give me away again, or if I should walk down the aisle solo... Any thoughts?

[Deleted User] · April 2011

I am not sure what the etiquette is on this, but I think I would just walk down the aisle either solo or walk with your husband to be.

RamonaFlowers · April 2011

I've only been to a few second weddings, and at all of them the bride either walked down the aisle alone, or was escorted by her FI. But that's,just been my experience, I have no clue what the actual etiquette (if there is any) on the subject is. In my opinion, being escorted by your dad really doesn't seem right, given the circumstances, though.

There is a Second Weddings board on TK (If you search under "special topics wedding boards" in the bar menu on the left), you might be able to get some more insight there.

tiffanycdemeo · April 2011

do what you want! you do not always have to follow etiquette sometimes. treat this wedding as a first wedding because it is the first time you are marrying your fiance. also ask your fiance what he would like, youd be surprised at how much guys think about little things like that. just remember its your day. your first marriage should have no weigh on what you do for this wedding.

Audrey&Austin · April 2011

The few second weddings I've been to either the bride walked by herself or with her son. If you have any children, I would suggest having them walk you down the aisle. It seems a little strange to me to have your father give you away a second time, but its not a breach of etiquette.

meep2 · April 2011

Do you have a preference? The father giving away the bride doesn't have to be reminicent of giving her away with a dowery and her husband taking over her legal rights. I think that you can ascribe different meaning to it today. I suppose that the reason a bride often don't have her father give her away in her second marriage is that she feels that by giving her away the first time, her father has already sort of said "My role when she was growing up was as the primary man in her life, and I was supposed to love and protect her. Now she's an adult, and that's not my role anymore. You're now the man in her life." If he's already done that, why do it again.

But, as mentioned, I think that's just why a lot of women walk down the aisle alone during their second marriages. It doesn't have to mean the same thing to you.

vexie · April 2011

It's my second wedding as well. I'm not quite comfortable with my dad walking me down the isle and giving me away a second time... . so instead I'll come in on my own, stop halfway down the isle and at that time my FI will walk down the isle towards me, we'll join arms and walk the rest of the isle together.

I love this plan so much!!

nsimon · April 2011

Do whatever you are most comfortable doing. Who cares what other people think... it is your day!

1. Have your father walk you down.
2. Have your mother AND father walk you down.
3. Walk by yourself.
4. Walk halfway and meet your fiance to walk the final half (like the previous post said) -- Very cute idea!

Whatever you decide, make sure it is what YOU want to do and not what someone else is telling you to do.

Ghoti · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_second-wedding-should-dad-give-away-again?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:bc784ff6-b4b8-43b4-b89b-9969449eb007Post:4dc5cf73-186b-4f61-8d7b-49d1c668525c">Re: Second wedding- should dad give me away again?</a>:
[QUOTE]do what you want! you do not always have to follow etiquette sometimes. treat this wedding as a first wedding because it is the first time you are marrying your fiance. also ask your fiance what he would like, youd be surprised at how much guys think about little things like that. just remember its your day. your first marriage should have no weigh on what you do for this wedding.
Posted by tiffanycdemeo[/QUOTE]
This!

mandi921vh · April 2011

Do whatever you want.

SuMmErKuTiE · April 2011

I say do whatever you want and are comfortable with. My aunt just got married for the 2nd time a few years ago and my grandfather gave her away again and I thought it was sweet.

tori.wall · April 2011

I am having my second wedding in Sept. I am going to have my two children walk me down the isle to my fiance. But I also really like the idea of meeting half way...

Taunya79 · April 2011

I'm having my 13 year old son walk me down the aisle. At my first wedding my dad & step-dad walked me down....I'm having trouble getting my fiance to see it as a compliment that my son wants to do it...it's a way for him to give his blessing...isn't that a good thing?

Avion22 · April 2011

Wow. I'm also a second-timer...hadn't even thought of this one.

No kids. My frist husband passed away. It's my fiance's first marriage. Think I'll have my dad walk me half-way, and maybe have my fiance meet me.

NMH2011 · April 2011

My father walked me down the aisle at my first wedding, and he has since passed away. I would give anything to have him here to walk me down again.

chocoholic4life · April 2011

You didn't get married the first time because your dad made arrangements with your first husband and literally "gave you away," so I think it's fine if you want him to escort you down the aisle a second time. His role hasn't changed just because you've been married before, IMO.

That said, if you want to do things differently and walk alone or with FI this time, that's perfectly fine too! Do what is right for you and FI, because this is a very special moment that only you two should decide.

Jfarmer11 · April 2011

Thank you all soooooo much for your input! I did talk to my FI and we decided that he and my daughter (the FG) will meet me halfway and we will walk together. I really appreciate everyone's help!!!

meep2 · April 2011

That'll be beautiful

Walking up the aisle as a family!

missy68 · April 2011

My dad walked me down the aisle both times. I wouldn't have had it any other way.

needle&thread · April 2011

This is my second marriage...and yeah, my step-dad is giving me away 'again' ('cause he's not keeping me! LOL)

Its perfectly fine.

S and CJ

lisamvp · December 2011

I too was wondering if I should have my father give me away again or have my three sons give me away. But after reading the idea of having my fiance meet me in the middle, I'm really liking that idea too! I've been in this relationship for 18 years so it's like my fiance has been their step-dad for that long. My kids can walk me half way and then tell my fiance, "Take our mom already; it's about time!" lol Ya, I think I'm really liking this idea!

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