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BM HELP!

thehologramstheholograms member
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Okay I posted this in Attire as well, but thought I'd get some feedback from you CT Brides.

All of my BMs, except for the MOH like this dress (she is also my sister).  Some people have suggested getting a different dress for her, but I really don't want to do that.  I will attach pictures of the dress.  It is JCrew and it would be in matisse blue, which is the first picture of the dress:

This second picture shows the back (which she doesn't like), I guess she doesn't like the full coverage.  I can't find a picture in my color so I'm just attaching with a different color so you get the idea:


Any thoughts on this dress?  Would you complain if this was the dress someone picked out for you to wear?  It has been put the side as Option B if we can't find anything else, but I like it for many reasons.  I think it is pretty (obv!), I think it fits in with my dress and our wedding well (this summer), and it can fit many different body types which I'm working with (tall, thin, big chested, full figured).  

So what do you think?  And have you had any similar experiences with your BMs???

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  • lfreeman24lfreeman24 member
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    The front is very pretty, I can see her point about the back but its still a beautiful dress! 

    have you seen the Matisse Blue in person? I ordered a BM dress of it and it was not the same  color as the one on the website! Its still a beauitful color just not what I was going for. Good Luck! 
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  • thehologramstheholograms member
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    It is a bit darker isn't it? I actually don't care what shade it is exactly, as long as it is close to royal blue.
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  • rswan412rswan412 member
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    I love the dress! But, that being said, you might want to try to find a place that sells it so the girls can try it on. I was a BM in a wedding once, and I saw the dress, hated it and thought I'd look awful in it, tried it on and LOVED it. Maybe it will change MOH's mind?
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  • Mandafly84Mandafly84 member
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    I know this is a very unpopular opinion here on TK, but I still think that when you sign up to be a BM, you let the bride pick the dress.  Will you ever wear it again?  99% chance no.  But unless you reallyreally hate it, you just STHU and wear it.  And smile pretty

    That said, I think it's a very pretty dress and I can't get on board with her complaining that she isn't showing enough skin.  Come on.
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  • cdbishopcdbishop member
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    I agree, the front is very pretty where as the back is not too exciting.  That being said it is up to you.  It is not always going to work to have all girls agree to one dress.  If that is the one you really want and they are all willing to wear that, go with it.  

    I agree with rswan though, I think trying on a dress is key. 
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  • wineo929wineo929 member
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    Can she get the back of it altered? I don't know a thing about that kind of stuff but maybe if it can be opened up a little she might like it?
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  • CTJennyCTJenny member
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    I also agree with trying on the dress first.

    I'm having issues with my MOH who also happens to be my sister. I told her she could pick a dress she likes that is flattering for her by the same designer, same color, etc as the other girls. 

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  • missmckenzie2missmckenzie2
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bm?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:a04f49ba-306d-41af-87c3-05f3cff3f579Post:e2e6af75-56d1-4137-b177-55db1c25828c">Re: BM HELP!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I know this is a very unpopular opinion here on TK, but I still think that when you sign up to be a BM, you let the bride pick the dress.  Will you ever wear it again?  99% chance no.  But unless you reallyreally hate it, you just STHU and wear it.  And smile pretty That said, I think it's a very pretty dress and I can't get on board with her complaining that she isn't showing enough skin.  Come on.
    Posted by Mandafly84[/QUOTE]

    <div>This pretty much exactly. We went to go try on  the J Crews dresses pretty recently for a wedding I am in. I would definitely recommend trying them on and they were very helpful in the store. But I felt like a lot of the dresses weren't true to size and that the looked like one thing on the hanger but very different on. I think the only place near by to try them on was Manhattan, but I could be wrong. </div>
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  • lfreeman24lfreeman24 member
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    edited February 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_bm?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:a04f49ba-306d-41af-87c3-05f3cff3f579Post:913cea3f-792f-4024-8189-a1292d71f8e4">Re: BM HELP!</a>:
    [QUOTE]It is a bit darker isn't it? I actually don't care what shade it is exactly, as long as it is close to royal blue.
    Posted by 27Sunrise[/QUOTE]

    It is actually more of a greenish blue than royal blue. I wanted  a not super bright royal blue which is why it didn't work for me. Based on how it looks on the computer I loved the color an thought it was perfect. You can order it and get free shipping and then return it to the store if you want to check it out.
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  • ChikachachaChikachacha member
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    J crew is terrible for alterations. It will cost an arm and a leg to get them altered very poorly made and fabrics are crappy too. Do not recommend them at al!
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  • Whtara10Whtara10 member
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    I think that the bride should pick the dress. If all the other BMs like it then that's the one you should use. Plus she is your MOH so like you said you could just try and find a different dress to put her in
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  • Jaridds68Jaridds68
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    I think that's a really pretty dress, and I don't really know what the problem is with the back. That dress is totally up my alley taste wise, it's just weird to me to fixate on the back of the dress, I would prob not like it if it was really open. I agree w/ PP's that it's the bride's choice, but it's important to take the bm's opinions into consideration. Maybe you could compromise w/ her (if she's that worried about her backside) and maybe she could wear a fun long necklace that drapes in the back and/or have some decorative elements added to an updo. 
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  • MoonlightSilverMoonlightSilver member
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    If her problem was that she felt like she was falling out of the dress, or showing too much skin, I would tell you that you need to consider her opinion and find a new dress. But if her problem is that she thinks you're covering too much skin, that just sounds like a personal preference, and I think she should just put up with the dress. It's really pretty!
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