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Rehearsal Dinner.... Yes or No?

ceeceed80ceeceed80 member
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Need some opinions... 

99.9% of our guest list is from out of town. We currently have 250 on our list to invite (most of which is family) and most of which we know will be attending. 

Is it in bad taste to only invite the bridal party and their immediate family and not the other 240 people? We are paying for the wedding ourselves, and while we have a nice budget, we don't want to shell out a huge sum and feel like we are having two receptions. Does that make sense?? 

Your opinions are highly appreciated... :)
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner.... Yes or No?

  • khornackkhornack
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    edited December 2011
    The majority of our guests are traveling as well. We are having  a rehearsal luncheon with wedding party, their dates, and immediate family only parents, siblings, and grandparents). The whole invite out of town guests is a relic from the bride and groom were from the same general geographic area. The only out of town guests were a few relatives.

    We are organizing a pay your own way dinner at a local restaurant for anyone who wants to join.
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  • babybchbumbabybchbum member
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    edited December 2011
    Quite a few of our guests are traveling too. We are having bridal party and their s/o as well as immediate family (siblings, grandparents and parents) as well as God Parents at the Rdinner.

    Honestly I think it is personal prefrence.
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  • NicoleB331NicoleB331 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's a nice gesture to invite out of town guests, but it's not a necessity especially if it is not in the budget.
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  • jennifer80808jennifer80808 member
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    edited December 2011
    Most of our guests were traveling as well, but we couldn't afford to include everyone.  We did bridal party and their immediate families and our immediate families (parents, grandparents, etc.).  No one seemed to mind!
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  • ceeceed80ceeceed80 member
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    edited December 2011
    whew... i'm glad i'm not the only one with the issue!! thanks for your thoughts! :)
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  • mbatheymbathey
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    edited December 2011
    ditto.....EVERYONE is from out of town, and we are only doing bridal party and immediate family. 
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  • mego36mego36 member
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    edited December 2011
    All of our guests are traveling.  We only invited the bridal party w/ dates, parents, and grandmas to the rehearsal dinner.  We figured that its a vacation for our other guests and they would like to have some free time to explore the area.
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    edited December 2011
    >>The whole invite out of town guests is a relic from the bride and groom were from the same general geographic area. The only out of town guests were a few relatives.

    This.
    I have never been to a wedding where OOTs were invited to the RD, and we go to about two weddings a year every year (we're both teachers).
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  • mooncusp22mooncusp22
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    edited December 2011

    We too have about 95% OOT so we are just doing wedding party and anyone involved in the ceremony at the rehersal dinner. If we invited everyone we would basically be having another wedding.

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  • ddocoboddocobo member
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    edited December 2011
    same here! Just bridal party, those who are involved in the ceremony, and immediate family memebers!
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  • SamigfbSamigfb member
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    edited December 2011
    It is not required to invite all out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner.   The only people who you are "required" to invite are the people who should be at the wedding rehearsal and their spouses i.e. bridal party, your parents, any readers and any friends who are singing or playing music during your ceremony.
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  • cmeyer3946cmeyer3946 member
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    edited December 2011

    All of our guests are traveling.  We did it a little different.  We are throwing a farewell brunch for everyone the next day.  It comes out to $8/pp catered which is totally doable since a lot of people will be heading out on flights the next day and only half will be able to attend.  $400 for bacon, eggs and hashbrowns is a lot easier to swallow.

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