Alright, this is really annoying me today! Our RSVP date was Saturday. I had about 20 couples who still hadn't RSVPed! I texted and e-mailed those who hadn't RSVPed and still have about 5 who haven't responded! Are you serious! Just tell me yes or no! It's like people don't realize that I have to send numbers to vendors and pay for them!
Also with that, I sent out the invites and put names if they had a significant other or something. I had one couple call who said that they were coming and their daughter had already RSVPed, but they said something about her bringing a date!!!! He was never invited and when she RSVPed, she didn't indicate that she was bringing someone! He would have been without a seat and sitting somewhere without her! Ugh! I am just annoyed with people who don't realize proper etiquette! How have you dealt with people not RSVPing?

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Re: Why do people think they don't have to RSVP????
Our RSVP issues have been entirely different - we sent out our invites & it turned out that our mail was/is screwed up & several people got theirs back. So we had to reach out to everyone at let them know that there was an issue with the mail. We didn't know about the problem until after people started sending them out (and we were advised of it & hadn't received them after we should have).
We still have a little over a week to go & have a few to hear back from. 2 are still waiting to see if they can get off work (my aunt who is supposed to bring my grandma). There are only 2 that we are waiting on (they have another wedding the same day - I have a feeling we'll have to contact them).
The Shower is another story. My mom is hosting & only a few have let her know. The majority have texted FI instead of letting my mom know. Others there was just no response.
Anyway, I hope you get the rest of the responses you need in time to turn in your numbers!
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Essentially we just had the attitude, when the count is due in they will not be included. If they show up they either a) don't get a meal or b) if the servers have extra meals they can find a seat if one is available and eat.
I had more of an annoyance with my aunt wanting her 17 year old grandson's girlfriend invited. Anyway long story short between my parents and I, it was determined to keep the peace. But I had no problem saying "absolutely not".
Its annoying I know. But just take the stance and say "oh well if they don't respond by the time the headcount is due, they are assumed to be no...if they come, that is their problem not ours".
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My fiance just moved to a new location for work and invited his new boss, first he wasn't coming. Now he's coming and he's bringing his girlfriend! But I just started with the attitude of Miss... if they don't respond even when I've reached out then they aren't coming. End of story. It actually feels good to that kind of absloute power
Two problems I have had - one couple we invited has rsvp'd back with there two grown kids that we do not know and were not invited. One guy told my moh that my fi didn't come to his wedding so he had no intention of mailing the rsvp back. He might show up and he might not. I told her to let him know that the rsvp was his meal ticket and without mailing it back there would be no food for him.
The Great Hall at Sunriver Resort, Sunriver, Oregon
243 Invited
172 Can't wait
71 Are missing out
[QUOTE]We had to hunt down quite a few answers as well. But the people who ESPECIALLY annoy me are people around my age who have just got married recently but STILL don't ever respond even after I reached out to them! HELLOOO! You just had a wedding not that long ago, don't you remember the stress of people who did not RSVP! So rude! She finally told me "maybe" so I just told her I would put her as a yes and hope to see her there.
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Oh my goodness...yes! I have said this to people so many times in conversation. People are married on a year or whatever and I keep saying "doesn't take long for them to forget how it feels because when they got married all I heard about was their RSVP and wedding things".
I've also come across the "been there, done that, got the t shirt" attitude from a couple of girls I am friends with and to be honest, that is a little hurtful because well...it wasn't that long ago they were in the same position. The worst one for this is actually one of my bridesmaids who got married last year. Her wedding was all we heard and now with ours, we don't even mention it unless she brings it up.
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