Saturday Vent

adktd2boots · January 2012

I just "published" our website and sent a link to friends and family on facebook. (a private list so not everyone sees it)

My aunt, who lives in Oregon, said "buy me a ticket". I said "Plane ticket?" so she said "yea!". I responded "I have a TON of things I have to pay for, including my airfare from MT THREE times this year, and that alone costs me over $500 each time" She hasn't written back yet, but I thought that was incredibly rude.

She and her 3 kids all think my parents are rich. My parents are nowhere near rich, but they work hard and enjoy life. (Same story with my grandparents, though my grandpa has now been gone almost 6 years) My aunt and cousins blow every dollar they make on junk and crap, then expect others to cover their assses when it comes down to things they should probably be at or do.

My 34 year old cousin said "I can't promise we'll be there" because he too blows all his money on crap. It frustrates the hell out of me. When my cousin got married 5 years ago, I took 3 days off work and traveled to his wedding, but now that it's time to return the favor he just doesn't know.

UGHHH! Vent over.

AriesAngel86 · January 2012

Are you sure that wasn't a joke? I sure hope it was because that is very rude!!

BMcLeodTeam · January 2012

I agree, I sure hope that was a joke!

Loveyk · January 2012

Hopefully it was just a joke.... My aunts tend to make comments like that just to get a raise out of me.

bridezillatobe2009 · January 2012

Joke or not, while I understand why you're upset that they don't seem to want to make the effort or spend the money to share your special day it's not up to you to decide what a "proper" way for them to spend their money is. I'm sorry that they are coming off as insensitive and not financially able, but it's your day and no one is going to make it as much of a priority as your and your FI are.

BMcLeodTeam · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_saturday-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:5dc77a1e-f264-4e86-9996-836c59a9fb1dPost:8ca472e7-b2b4-4a07-a941-deb1fcaf2be0">Re: Saturday Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]Joke or not, while I understand why you're upset that they don't seem to want to make the effort or spend the money to share your special day it's not up to you to decide what a "proper" way for them to spend their money is. I'm sorry that they are coming off as insensitive and not financially able, but it's your day and no one is going to make it as much of a priority as your and your FI are.
Posted by bridezillatobe2009[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No, she can't say where they spend their money but on the same token, it was very rude if that wasn't a joke for her Aunt to tell her to buy her ticket.

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SCogs18 · January 2012

Wtf, that is SO rude! I had a guest has me when I would be buying her ticket (her family is loaded so I think she just assumed that is what the hosts do because it's what her famly would probably do). I told her that while I hope she can fly in, I won't be paying for her flight or hotel. End of story. She seemed surprised, but hasn't brought it up since. I swear, people are stupid some times. Ignore you aunt. You've made it clear you can't/won't be paying for the flights.

bridezillatobe2009 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_saturday-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:5dc77a1e-f264-4e86-9996-836c59a9fb1dPost:7e21a94c-f8e0-45b5-8783-401d0dbc3316">Re: Saturday Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday Vent : No, she can't say where they spend their money but on the same token, it was very rude if that wasn't a joke for her Aunt to tell her to buy her ticket.
Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]
I agree, but I can't even fathom the possiblity that her aunt wasn't kidding, but I suppose anything is possible

ekk120 · January 2012

Thats so upsetting! Im sorry that she said that

It is definitely frustrating when out of towners dont seem to place the same importance on your day that you placed on theirs. Hope it all works out and that theyre able to afford it on their own to come. Weddings can be expensive, but youre giving them plenty of time to set money aside for it!

mamameech · January 2012

Eek I do hope she was kidding. I've learned that no matter what you do or don't do there will be family drama. Let it be their problem and not yours. Isnt wedding planning fun?! Lol

SeaTea02 · January 2012

Wow, that's pretty bold.

Maybe you could buy her a book on manners instead of a plane ticket?

adktd2boots · January 2012

I understand their money is none of my business. But when they are SERIOUS about us paying for them, it does become my business. Spending their money on pot, then asking for money from my parents, myself, my grandma- that's our business. Since she moved to Oregon, my grandma has had to pay for her trips back to CA when she wants to go back. My grandma does it because she wants to see her daughter. It's taking advantage.

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