MOH don't agree with of bridesmaids

Knottie_22383818 · March 2013

I have two MOHs which are my 2 sisters. I thought of who I'd like to invite into my wedding party...that will be another 5 girls. Total of 7 girls in my bridal party. I told my MOHs and they don't agree. They think it should be a smaller bridal party. Why? Because other 5 girls live at least 6 hours away. We all became close in college. They said it will be harder to agree on stuff and harder to work together over long distance. I'm not sure what to do. 2 of bridemaids are def in the wedding, other 3 not sure yet and I want to ask them. But now since my sisters told me this..I'm not sure what to do. ????? Help? Lol

mercetta · March 2013

I have two MOHs which are my 2 sisters. I thought of who I'd like to invite into my wedding party...that will be another 5 girls. Total of 7 girls in my bridal party. I told my MOHs and they don't agree. They think it should be a smaller bridal party. Why? Because other 5 girls live at least 6 hours away. We all became close in college. They said it will be harder to agree on stuff and harder to work together over long distance. I'm not sure what to do. 2 of bridemaids are def in the wedding, other 3 not sure yet and I want to ask them. But now since my sisters told me this..I'm not sure what to do. ????? Help? Lol

QueerFemme · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_moh-dont-agree-with-of-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f0cf6f2d-c8ce-4829-8bee-51d926f38926Post:fc37fbf9-8691-4316-8628-18bf0febec72">MOH don't agree with of bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]I have two MOHs which are my 2 sisters. I thought of who I'd like to invite into my wedding party...that will be another 5 girls. Total of 7 girls in my bridal party. I told my MOHs and they don't agree. They think it should be a smaller bridal party. Why? Because other 5 girls live at least 6 hours away. We all became close in college. They said it will be harder to agree on stuff and harder to work together over long distance. I'm not sure what to do. 2 of bridemaids are def in the wedding, other 3 not sure yet and I want to ask them. But now since my sisters told me this..I'm not sure what to do. ????? Help? Lol
Posted by mercetta[/QUOTE]

A way to solve the problem of everyone "agreeing" is to let each BM choose their own dress. Give them a color and length, and let each BM pick a dress that flatters them.

QueerFemme · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_moh-dont-agree-with-of-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f0cf6f2d-c8ce-4829-8bee-51d926f38926Post:a42ab3c6-acd8-4037-bab2-02c0ba293082">Re: MOH don't agree with of bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]If these women mean enough to you that you want them by your side on your wedding day - ask them. Keep in mind that with each BM, the cost of flowers and gifts will go up a bit. Also, I agree with cmgilpin - I had my BMs pick out purple cocktail or tea-length dresses. They got to pick their budget and looked great. If you really want the matching colors, <strong>David's Bridal is almost everywhere.</strong>
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

That's what I did. I picked a DB color that I loved, and told my BMs to pick whatever dress they liked in that color. There are easily 100 BM dresses in each DB color. So, it's usually easy for every person to find a dress that is flattering for them.

Viczaesar · March 2013

Frankly, it's none of your sisters' business who you invite to be in your wedding party.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

They don't really need to agree on anything. I live in NY. Two of my BMs are local. The other 4 are in VA, MD, MA, and OR. We have had no issues with anything. I picked a color from DB, which was near enough to all of them, they're picking their own shoes, and anything else (just giving them info about hair/make up/day of was a simple email.

Pick who you want up there with you the most. Simple as that.

Peledreamsofrain · March 2013

Your MOHs do not get to dictate to you the composition of your bridal party. They are correct that logistics will be a bit more interesting, but there are ways around that, as others have stated.

Tell them to stop bossing you around about a personal decision, it's obnoxious.

erinlin25 · March 2013

good thing it is your wedding and YOU get to pick your wedding party. Not like they have to help you plan so distance does not matter. 3 of my 5 bridesmaids live 4 hours from me. Does not matter how far they live. If they are important people to you, ask them to be bridesmaids.

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