WR, but NWR...need your advice!

kelsey+brandon · January 2012

Sorry to be a PW right now...

So my aunts are hosting my bridal luncheon. Something they've been offering to do since we got engaged.

Here's the thing. One of my other cousin's is engaged (a boy) and his mom - one of my aunt's hosting the shower - got upset at my mom because we haven't offered to do anything for her son and his FI.

If it was a female cousin getting married, we would have already offered to host something...but what are you supposed to do when you're on the groom's side. We don't want to step on the bride's family's toes!!

Any thoughts/suggestions?

diamondx423 · January 2012

Maybe a party the day after? Like a "welcome to the family" bbq or brunch?

chelseakopperud · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Maybe a party the day after? Like a "welcome to the family" bbq or brunch?
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

I like this idea.

gregamywedding · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Maybe a party the day after? Like a "welcome to the family" bbq or brunch?
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

I like this idea. I have never really thought about that. To me all of those things are taken care of by the bride's family and friends.

Sarah0335 · January 2012

I like the idea of doing a brunch the morning/afternoon after the wedding.

Otherwise, I would say that you would be thrilled to host something, but would just like to discuss it with the bride first to make sure her family has not already made plans.

daria24 · January 2012

I think it all depends on the geoprahy of the two families. If both families live close to each other, usually there is one shower, hosted by bride's friends or family, and the FIL are invited to that shower. If the groom's family is from further away, then I usually see the groom's family throwing a shower for the bride.

But if you guys want to throw them a party, throw them a party and call it whatever you want!

kelsey+brandon · January 2012

I like the brunch idea! I'm going to run it by my mom. Thanks y'all!

I don't know how the showers are going to work out. They both live in DC, he's from a SMALL town and she's from Greensboro that are about 40 minutes away from each other, so not too far.

kimiandgary · January 2012

Is it possible to get in touch with the future cousin's bridesmaid's and see if they are planning anything? I wouldn't expect my FI's family to throw any kind of shower.

One of my SIL needed us to throw her a shower because her family was unable to do so and that was no problem. The other SIL had one thrown by her BM's and family and just was sure to include us.

julbgordo · January 2012

Honestly, I would talk to the engaged cousin about it. Maybe the Bride's family is covering everything ... He should know.

Zimsgirl26 · January 2012

Engagement party?

Bejohnson5 · January 2012

Is it against etiquette to have more than 1 shower? Not sure if it's a mid-west thing or what, but I'm having more than 1 shower. Groom's family, Bride's family and FMIL said her friend wanted to throw me one as well. Can your side throw her one as a welcome to the family thing (doesn't have to be big) and then her side can throw her one too?

kelsey+brandon · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Engagement party?
Posted by Zimsgirl26[/QUOTE]

They've been engaged since October of 2010 and are getting married the end of April. They had a party with their friends in DC too.

Asking my cousin is a good idea too! Thanks again y'all.

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