XP from my wedding month board: "African American Weddings"? I think I'm offended...

Re: XP from my wedding month board: "African American Weddings"? I think I'm offended...

• Stackeye210 member

  

  May 2011 edited May 2011

  The page is there because some African American ladies asked that there be a board there specifically for AA ladies.  It was a request.  There are (as I'm sure you know) specific traditions within AA weddings that others may or may not understand.
  
  The board is a very accepting place and they have always welcomed all types of brides to post over there (no matter what race). 

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• scottswife1106 member

  

  May 2011

  That board is under Cultural Wedding Boards where there are also Asian, Chinese, Latino and so on.
  
  I think you are a little confused.

  

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• J&K10910 member

  

  May 2011

  I don't think it's silly for you to feel the way you feel.  They're YOUR feelings   But as Stacks said, it was a specific request, and I do believe it's a pretty active board with quite a few regular posters.

  
  
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• Moneypenny424 member

  

  May 2011

  I can't say you're being silly, but I wasn't miffed by it.  There are boards for Asian weddings, Latino weddings, etc.  There are things that African Americans do at weddings (i.e. jumping the broom, etc.) that may be helpful to discuss with other African American brides.  I guess I don't see an issue where brides may want to discuss certain cultural things happening in their weddings. 

  
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• cndycne2005 member

  

  May 2011 edited May 2011

  Oh, ok. Maybe my browser loaded the pages incorrectly. Or maybe it's another TK glitch, showing me things on the wrong pages, and what not. Thanks for the clarifications! Now I feel like a dope. :-)
  
  Edited for spelling.

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• Stackeye210 member

  

  May 2011

  Once you get your page to load correctly you should definitely look around on the AA board.  They are a great and helpful group of ladies.

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• scottswife1106 member

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_xp-wedding-month-board-african-american-weddings-think-im-offended?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1a2e2353-c12a-4957-8518-d9c725d719c6Post:8282432c-f0f6-4e18-bae8-9cbb8eb71c9f">Re: XP from my wedding month board: "African American Weddings"? I think I'm offended...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Oh, ok. Maybe my brower loaded the pages incorrectly. Or maybe it's another TK glitch, showing me things on the wrong pages, and what not. Thanks for the clarifications! Now I feel like a dope. :-)
  Posted by cndycne2005[/QUOTE]
  
  No need to feel like a dope. You had a question and it was answered. You are not a dope.

  

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• noodle_oo member

  

  May 2011

  Um, yeah, there are plenty of boards for different cultures and ethnicities.  I was definitely checking out the Asian weddings board.  I think you are offended for no reason.  Besides, if you don't want to, you don't have to participate in that board. It is optional. 

  
  

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• smokeybailey member

  

  May 2011

  OP, you aren't a dope. These ladies are referring to a different area than you were looking at.
  
  Actually, she wasn't asking about the AA board.  She was referring to the section of the knot where there is not a section on Asian or Latina brides and weddings.  http://wedding.theknot.com/real-weddings.aspx
  
  I still don't think that you should be offended but I could see how that would stand out to someone who wasn't familiar with the different boards that may drive those site-sections. 

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• Birdie1483 member

  

  May 2011

  Good catch smokey!
  
  It looks like it would feature pictures of AA specific wedding traditions, like jumping the broom. I can see how it might look a little weird if you were just looking at the menu.
  
  And I agree with J&K. Don't ever let someone tell you your feelings are silly. I HATE it when people tell me that!
  

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• KentuckyKate member

  

  May 2011 edited May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_xp-wedding-month-board-african-american-weddings-think-im-offended?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1a2e2353-c12a-4957-8518-d9c725d719c6Post:573a14ff-e8bf-4ef2-aa48-a07d588be208">XP from my wedding month board: "African American Weddings"? I think I'm offended...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hi Ladies, I lurk on this board quite often and I like your honest answers to different issues, so I just wanted to get your views on this. I was just surfing TK for fun and clicked on the Real Weddings tab. To my surprise, there is a page for "African American Weddings". Now, I am African American, and I don't view myself as the sensitive type when it comes to things like this, but I think I am just a tad bit offended. What is the point of having that specific distinction? Especially when the other tabs are: Spring Weddings, Summer Weddings, Fall Weddings, Winter Weddings, Green Weddings, Military Weddings, Interfaith Ceremonies, <strong>Jewish Weddings</strong> and Gay Weddings. I don't feel it belongs there, since <strong>none of the other categories have anything to do with race/ethnicity.</strong> That's like saying: German-American Weddings, or Latin-American Weddings... you know? I haven't actually been able to investigate the page itself, because it keeps crashing my internet browser, but I just had to ask - do you think I'm being silly to be a little miffed?
  Posted by cndycne2005[/QUOTE]
  It's ok to feel the way you do.  You don't have to justify your feelings, although to be honest, it seems a tad oversensitive.  Just so you know though, most Jewish Americans think of Judaism as a matter of culture or ethnicity as well as religion.

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• ootmother2 member

  

  May 2011

  I remember when they initiated the seperate boards.  African American was one of the first because it had been requested so often.
  
  It somewhat bothers me that they seperate the Catholic board from the Christian board.  Catholics ARE Christian, btw.
  
  meh, I wouldn't read anything into what the knot does.  They're having enough of a problem just keep the correct time on the boards, much less THINK about anything.

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• marinabreeze

  

  May 2011 edited May 2011

  Oh okay, I see what you're saying, OP.  My guess is that the AA section in the "real weddings" tab is for things specific to African-Americans, like black haircare, traditions, etc., unique to African Americans.
  
  I frequent the AA discussion board but had never seen the AA section of "real weddings."  To be honest, I'm glad you pointed it out, though.  I'll be honest, I find much of the "mainstream" hairstyles posted on TK, as well as the wedding beauty and hair 411 stuff useless to me since I am black and my hair (and to a degree skin) needs are different.  I like that they have pictures of hairstyles and stuff as well as other information that could potentially be useful to me.
  
  ETA:  OP, don't feel bad, it's an honest question and you're entitled to your feelings.  FWIW, I know that with the cultural boards at least, they're created by user suggestion.  As far as the cultural boards go, I tend to frequent the AA, Christian (which is pretty much a Protestant/Evangelical board), and the Interracial board (which is a newer board and IMO very useful personally).  I'm sure that if enough people of various European extractions truly felt they should have their own boards to discuss their traditions, such boards would be created for them.

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