Ok..... let's say you have a honor attendant that first and foremost family - your cousin...you promised that when you were kids that we were going to be the main woman in each others weddings. I was there for her & I have now asked her to be there for me. She has had health issues for a few years now but has just recently lost quite a bit of weight to where she is about 85lbs and is 5ft 8in tall. Due to the weight lost other issues have arose and therefore a doctor and surgery have been brought into the mix. Her surgery is a month before my wedding which doesn't give much time for recuperating. I mentioned to her that I understood if she wouldn't be able to walk in the wedding & that I totally understand due to the circumstances... all she had to do was tell me. Her response was that she would keep me up to date with everything and let me know. I'm thinking let me know when??? (I love her very much but I also know she is a huge procrastinator.) When are you going to figure out that you are or are not going to be up for walking in my wedding.... two weeks after your surgery (2 weeks before my wedding)....that doesn't really leave any time for me to make any needed adjustments or be able to order the programs & small gift ideas I wanted to add. I also know that with this surgery she won't be able to participate in any of the functions (or help the other bridesmaids for that matter - more problems I will have to deal with I'm sure)...and I'm ok with that...I understand...b/c I'm thinking of her & what she needs. I am not trying to be bridezilla, but is wanting to know who is in my wedding that much to ask? What would you do in my situation?