Traditional Catholic Mass or 30 minute ceremony...

Re: Traditional Catholic Mass or 30 minute ceremony...

• [Deleted User] member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_traditional-catholic-mass-or-30-minute-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:111467d5-f458-4a3b-835d-35f4d09f9b9ePost:804036c0-f762-4421-95ee-3ccb8bf4c353">Re: Traditional Catholic Mass or 30 minute ceremony...</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Traditional Catholic Mass or 30 minute ceremony... : Not to be a jerk or pick a fight, but you don't have to go to church and follow a religion if you don't want to. You can just choose not to go.
  Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]
  
  it's that Catholic guilt thing   :(

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• NOLAbridealmost member

  

  February 2013

  Many priests in their discretion will grant catholic guests a dispensation from the Sunday obligation at the end of a catholic wedding mass. They rule.

  
  Fatty Blog

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• jenjlgsings member

  

  February 2013

  If you are having a wedding in a Catholic church, there is a form that MUST be followed.  The only thing that can be altered is whether there is a liturgy of the Eucharist or not. 
  You will still have, at a minimum,  a first reading, responsorial psalm and gospel, homily, vows and welcome and dismissal prayers. 
  
  If both you and your fiance are Catholic, you should have the full Nuptial Mass.   
  
  What everyone needs to remember is that the Catholic church and its members view marriage as a sacrament.  It is a covenant between you, your fiancé and God.  It is also a vocation.  Vocations and Sacraments are not to be taken lightly, and, unfortunately, many brides to be do not understand the importance of the sacramental portion of the life they are entering in to.  If you are trying to "rush" the sacrament, you should re-think your priorities with entering into this sacramental union.
  
  I'm not trying to cause trouble.  I am just pointing out that if you are getting married in the Catholic church, there are certain things that you are agreeing to.  Make sure you review your vows and other portions of the Mass so you know what you are saying yes to.
  
  As for the unity candle, each church is different as to whether or not they will allow the candle at all as it is not a part of the Rite of Marriage.  The Sacrament of Marriage has more than enough to symbolize what you are trying to accomplish with the candle, and, in the eyes of the Church, partaking in the Eucharist is one of the most uniting things that can be done.
  
  When you have questions and concerns like this, the best place to go is directly to your priest.

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• bfsboo

  

  February 2013

  Jenglgsings is right. We just went through the same situation. My FI and I are both Catholic and didn't want the full mass, but when we emailed my priest about it, I got back a very heated, passionate response stating why it is pretty much imperative to have every aspect of it in our wedding. We have also been told that the Unity candle is a choice, but definitely not a tradition  I guess they basically started it when the wedding industry wasn't making much money??).... Oh, and while the Eucharist is really important, the readings are the part that are a must have. We didn't want the full mass at first because it's a private wedding and only a few of us are Catholic but we have been told that it's not a good enough reason to not have it. Sorry there isn't an easier option for you, but that's being a Catholic for ya! Good luck!

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• tally7 member

  

  February 2013

  ask the priest

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