How long is your grace period for RSVPs?

Jana711 · February 2012

Our RSVP deadline is this Saturday for our March 17th wedding. While we have about 80%- 90% of the response cards back, we're still waiting to hear from about 12 guests (some couples). I would assume that they're not planning to come considering they've had the invitation for over 5 weeks now and probably should have already made plans.

The other side is that these people were mostly guests that my FFIL invited (FSMIL's family who we don't really care if they come or not) and we're actually very happy with our guest list now and are right at where we wanted to be with 175 guests. We are totally willing to pay for our extras since we invited them, but we're fine with everything as it is now, KWIM? If you're giving guests a grace period, how long?

FFIL reminded them a few weeks ago of the deadline so we're not making any phonecalls to them if we haven't heard after the deadline. Just wondering how long you're waiting before submitting the final count.

LoverBean27 · February 2012

Deadline is tomorrow, I'm calling on Sunday lol! I've had the worst time with this whole RSVP thing and I have to know a "PRETTY GOOD" estimate by the 24th. 133 have not responded!!!! >:0

Jana711 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_how-long-is-your-grace-period-for-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:df4a50ae-5924-4bd0-a7ba-5a5c398b7518Post:0eb43eec-fb78-4327-aa59-9acc2839c495">Re: How long is your grace period for RSVPs?</a>:
[QUOTE]Deadline is tomorrow, I'm calling on Sunday lol! I've had the worst time with this whole RSVP thing and I have to know a "PRETTY GOOD" estimate by the 24th. 133 have not responded!!!! />:0
Posted by LoverBean27[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow, people can be so inconsiderate! GL!</div>

ahaggerty · February 2012

mine was Feb 10, and I have already started calling/emailing. How hard is it to RSVP? I provided you a stamp!!

JMot7 · February 2012

Oh my gosh, LoverBean!

133 haven't responded and the deadline is tomorrow?! Thats insane.
Our deadline is Feb 17th too and I think I'm gonna give them a few more days til I start calling stragglers.

w+c3 · February 2012

Don't just assume they aren't coming!! Terrible Idea. We gave them a week then called them and either couldn't get ahold of them or did and gave them a by tonight deadline and I still had and I still had 9 rsvps after that. People are so rude. Literraly just got one in the mail yesterday and my rsvp date was March 1st. and of course it was a yes and of course my parents had no balls to tell them it was too late.

KH 2012 · February 2012

i cant see the post but based off your title-I am doing a full week i think! our rsvps are due sat so I think my final cut off will be feb 24

LoverBean27 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_how-long-is-your-grace-period-for-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:df4a50ae-5924-4bd0-a7ba-5a5c398b7518Post:ae32ce6c-2c67-40be-b586-a016af00a718">Re: How long is your grace period for RSVPs?</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh my gosh, LoverBean! 133 haven't responded and the deadline is tomorrow?! Thats insane . Our deadline is Feb 17th too and I think I'm gonna give them a few more days til I start calling stragglers.
Posted by JMot7[/QUOTE]

LOL that is my thought too.... I'm so annoyed.

HobokensFury · February 2012

My due date is tomorrow. I'm going to wait until Tuesday in case they drop it in the mail last minute.

scooterpie7 · February 2012

My due date is next Friday, and I'm going to start chasing people up the weekend immediately following - so no grace period at all!

Jana711 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_how-long-is-your-grace-period-for-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:df4a50ae-5924-4bd0-a7ba-5a5c398b7518Post:d563999c-61b5-465e-811b-ccd266e1f3fa">Re: How long is your grace period for RSVPs?</a>:
[QUOTE]My due date is tomorrow. I'm going to wait until Tuesday in case they drop it in the mail last minute.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

<div>If people respond after Tuesday, will you still allow them to come? I'm so inclined to not allow anymore after the deadline but don't know what I'd do if it actually happened. It's just the rudeness of responding late that annoys me and makes me want to tell them no, sorry, we're done.</div>

cu97tiger · February 2012

Jana, I'd give it four days to a week, but DEFINITELY give them a courtesy call and say 'if we don't hear from you by x date, we will have to assume you are a no.' Not calling them and assuming they aren't coming is a recipe for having a few people show up and have nowhere to sit. While it's technically their fault, as the hosts, it will end up falling on you, so you might as well prepare for it.

rebeccaa12 · February 2012

I'm still bitter, but my venue sucks. They were due the month before I sent my invitations out. *huff*

However, for seating chart purposes, I'm giving it another week.

Good luck!

ashbosity · February 2012

My RSVP date is the 25th but I emailed everyone to nicely tell them to send them back last night and let everyone know about our website. My ceremony venue wants a final count for insurance 30 days out (the 23rd, ooops), so I might have to do some over estimating.

paulette1979 · February 2012

This RSVP stuff is SO freaking annoying!!! I mean, haven't these people ever thrown a good size party?

My wedding is March 17th, and I gave them until Feb 17th to respond. My closest family members haven't even RSVP'd which urks me!!! I'm not giving anyone a grace period....they had the invites since January 5th!! thats enough grace time...i'm calling them tomorrow.

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