Registry for Reception/Party but no ceremony?

Re: Registry for Reception/Party but no ceremony?

• lindseyrayhall2

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registry-receptionparty-but-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:23d5e710-6b37-474c-805f-251f208fb818Post:8fb64eea-ce76-4955-bcc3-d9f60da2b756">Re: Registry for Reception/Party but no ceremony?</a>:
  [QUOTE]we're only inviting about 30 people to our ceremony, the venue(art gallery) is a bit awkward for inviting more to view the JOP marry us. Also, my fiancee would be happiest if we had no one at all to view us getting married, he has an extreme hate for public displays of affection. So whatever, we are having a nice cocktail reception, and our registry info is on our wedding website. If you have some sort of website I don't see the problem with it, but I would also bring a gift to a reception only event. Nevermind the cost of a dress or JOP etc, many people just don't like the marriage part being public, and that's their prerogative, have it as you like!
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  </div><div>I am in the exact same situation as euchild.  My FI hates attention and does not feel comfortable in front of a crowd.  Him being comfortable during our ceremony is 100% the most important aspect of our wedding - He needs to enjoy the moment instead of dread it! So, we are planning a private JOP ceremony (possibly in front of City Hall or some other picturesque location) immediately followed by a cocktail reception at my parents house/backyard garden.  Less than 10 people will be present for our ceremony, but we are planning to invite appoximately 100 guests to the reception.  My mother and MIL have offered to throw showers in our respective hometowns and we do plan on registering.  </div><div>
  </div><div>I have mentioned my plans to friends and family and, so far, everyone is excited about our plans.  Most people look forward to attending a reception and they just deal with sitting through a ceremony anyways!!  This moment will never ever ever be more important to anyone else, than it will be to you and your future husband!  </div><div>
  </div><div>Overall, I think most people will understand that not being invited to the ceremony is NOT a reflection on how much you value their friendship - friends will understand that you chose to have an intimate ceremony because it is about your love for each other and nothing else. Inviting them to the celebration is not begging for gifts, but hoping that they can still be a part of celebrating your new life!  Creating a registry is, also, not begging for gifts.  It is providing a convience for those who want to celebrate your marriage.  It takes the pressure off the guessing game of what to buy - just include a variety of items at all price ranges and only share your registry information through word of mouth or via your wedding website - don't mention in on an invitation.</div><div>
  </div><div>Ha - can you tell I have thought about this one WAY too much!?</div><div>
  </div><div>Good Luck and Best Wishes! </div>

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