Nervous about EE this weekend

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  I had many of the same questions and concerns as you.
  
  I wouldn't say the experience brought us closer, but that it really deepened our relationship a bit further. It did not bring up any old arguments for us, but definitely some issues that had to do with my family and other things that I had been struggling and dealing with at the time. Although we were with a total group of strangers, I felt that I could open up among them when we had group discusssions.
  
  For me, it was more of an emotionally charged weekend as there was (at least for us) a lot of writing in your workbook and then discussing the answers with your FI. Some of them brought up things that I was struggling with as mentioned above that I am very sensitive about and brought tears to my eyes. Other girls were crying, too, so I didn't feel bad. Our place had lots of tissues on hand...lol.
  
  Every place is going to be different, but for the place in which our was held was a camp and conference center. To both my husband and I, it reminded us of camp when we were younger. The rooms in which we stayed had 2 twin size beds in them and one full bath that was quite small.
  
  I, too, was nervous about the whole roomate thing bc I am a very private person. I told H I was going to sleep in the car. She ended up being really cool and we hit things off really well. H, on the other hand, like his roomie, but he was a loud snorer, so he didn't get much sleep. I just didn't sleep well bc my bed was uncomfortable. They packed our schedule pretty well, but the good thing is that ours was over Sunday afternoon after Mass, so we could unpack and get some rest.
  
  Good luck - everything will be just fine
  

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• kbarker719

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  I really enjoyed my EE weekend.  It brought up old things, but in our case it gave us a chance to look how far we've come and looking back we had an opportunity to laugh about a few things that long ago were sore subjects.  I recommend not shying away from old arguments, but letting this be the time when you both let those things go for good and move forward stronger and better.
  
  Our rooms were single rooms (no roommate), but the bathrooms were dorm-style, which means it was a community bank of stalls for toilets and stalls for showers.  I had a sink in my room, but for everything else we had to use the community restroom. 

  

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• mica178 member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  We had an overall positive experience.  I think there's a good chance that if there are major underlying issues in your relationship that you've been ignoring, it'll come up during EE.  That's probably a blessing -- better to address this stuff before you get married!  I wouldn't worry too much.  I didn't notice much bickering, so I don't think the petty issues that exist in every relationship will be a problem.

  
  

  Our housing situation was double rooms, so while I had a roommate, at least we shared a private bathroom.  I wasn't too keen on having a roommate and joked that I was going home to sleep (I lived only a few miles away from the EE site), but the girl was nice, and really we didn't have all that much time off in the evening.  If you have community bathrooms, treat it like college.  Don't forget to pack a robe and shower shoes/flip flops.  

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• wifeandmommy0609

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  Fl and I went and we enjoyed it. It brought us closer and it also deepen our relationship. It did bring a few things from the pass up but we got over it and moved on from it.
  
  Our rooms were hotel style with 2beds and a bathroom it was girls in one room boys in another..
  

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• RecoveringActor member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  My EE is this weekend, too... I just popped over to the Catholic board to see if any other knotties were going through it. 
  
  Both FI and I are nervous about it... we will have roommates.  And I got a cold yesterday!!! I'm doing my best to get rid of it as quickly as possible. 

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• annagtz82

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

   All the nervousness was for nothing. My FI and I really enjoyed it. It really did bring us closer together and made our relationship even stronger. I also got a cold on the Thursday before the retreat and I was sick the entire weekend. It didn't help that the ground's keeper of the facility forgot to turn on the boilers and everyone had really cold showers Saturday morning. And the beds and pillows were not comfy at all, so I hardly got any rest. But other than that it was a cool experience. There were two couples that we really clicked with and ended up exchanging numbers so that we can get together again for a bbq or something.

  
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