Hi everyone!
My MOH and I had our BIG MEETING (tm) today to go over the order of the ceremony, the car shuffle (we're not renting a big, fancy car for the Bridal Party), and details, and she absolutely won't leave me alone about posed wedding pictures.
Background: I hate pictures. I have absolutely no pictures of me from the time I was about 13yo to now (I'm 28 in November) because I feel horribly awkward when there's a camera in my face, and then the pictures come out all goofy. Because my lovely, wonderful fiance demands photos of all big events, though, (and, well, cause it's our wedding) I couldn't say no to photos for this.
So! One of my best friends, who is a wedding photographer professionally, is flying out to do our pictures and I've told her that I would appreciate having candid shots, in a photojournal style. I know she enjoys taking them, and I know she's good at what she does, so I don't worry about her.
But my MOH is driving me nuts. She says, "You'll regret not having formal pictures taken in forty years." and "What about your parents? They're going to want posed pictures with the whole family."
My responses are, "I prefer candids because they represent the event and the feelings of that event so much better" and "my parents aren't getting married; I am. They aren't paying for it, either. I am. If they want professional photos, they can haul my butt down to Sears on their own time."
I don't want to fight with her (I adore her, and she's my brother's long-term cohabitating girlfriend -- practically my SIL at this point), and although I understand her point of view, I absolutely, 100% don't agree. My fiance doesn't care, so long as it's documented. Thinking about standing there with a bunch of people (many of whom I don't care for) with a camera in my face for HOURS just makes me want to cry. It makes me utterly miserable.
Help!