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July 2013 Weddings
What's the WORST relationship advice you've been given?
Since my FI and I got engaged, everyone we know has had a wealth of advice for us on how to make it work. A lot of it has been great, but some of it has been seriously stinky. The worst advice we've been given is the old favorite "never go to bed angry." Everything we've learned has taught us that it's bad advice. Sometimes you need time to think over exactly why you're angry, then you can come together and fix it like grown ups. How are you supposed to never go to bed angry? The best I can figure, you either pretend to make up even if you're still upset, or stay up and fight.
So, what's the worst advice you've been given? It can be something that conflicts with your personal ideals of a relationship, something you don't care for, or something that is just plain incorrect.
So, what's the worst advice you've been given? It can be something that conflicts with your personal ideals of a relationship, something you don't care for, or something that is just plain incorrect.
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Re: What's the WORST relationship advice you've been given?
[QUOTE]We moved in together three years ago and heard it ALL. The most common were: "Now he'll never marry you. Why would he?!" and "Now you're doomed. People who live together before they are married never stay together." I never said anything, and I am sure they feel stupid now. He DID propose, and we are hardly doomed, we are more "husband and wife" than most of our married friends.
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<div>I think the problem with that is even someone suggesting that is just setting the couple up for failure because even if the woman wasn't thinking about it, now she's thinking about it and how it's not going to happen. If marriage was already on her priority list, then it makes it more of a focus than it may have been otherwise and she might get upset and leave that it hasn't happened yet sooner than letting the relationship run its natural course - creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. There are plenty of people out there in loving committed relationships who aren't married, many who cohabitate. A piece of paper does not a relationship make and I think society in general needs to figure that out. </div>
As for FI's parents, I haven't gotten any bit of bad advice from her. She's so nice, funny and quite outspoken...I'm sure I would have heard of something by now..if not from her then through FI. I guess I lucked out marrying into a great family.