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Officially Stressed (small vent too...)

FLGatorGal88FLGatorGal88 member
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I am so stressed right now I am ready to throw in the towel at this point and say lets go to the court house tomorrow. So as most of you know our plans have changed a few times. After going to a mini wedding show today I have been soooo overwhelmed with making some of the decision (i.e. picking a florist, picking a dj, etc.) Anytime I ask FI what he thinks or I tell him to make a decision he just doesn't seem to care. It bothers me because I want his input on some stuff and he NEVER says anything (AHHHHHHHHHH). He went to the mini wedding show with me and was ready to go after talking to 2 vendors seriously?!?!?!? I know most grooms don't go to things like that but still I told him we would only be there for about and hr or two max. It also doesn't help that I am a indecisive person either but I guess from here on out I am biting the bullet and making the decisions and I hope he like everything that I end up planning... Thanks for letting me vent...
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Re: Officially Stressed (small vent too...)

  • aprahamian2aprahamian2
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    Aw, sorry to hear you are stressed. If it makes you feel better, FI tells me "it's up to you!" for literally every decision regarding the wedding. I feel like I have had to make a lot of decisions on my own. I don't think I could drag him to a wedding show. But just because they aren't all about the intricate details of planning, it doesn't mean they aren't just as excited as we are to actually get married. Remind me- have you picked out a venue? Are you planning to have a big wedding or a small personal ceremony? Planning is definitely stressful and I feel you on this, but I think it will all be worth it in the end.
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  • FLGatorGal88FLGatorGal88 member
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    We are having a wedding with about 80 or so guest. We were originally going to elope but after FI got laid off it just made sense for us to do have it here since we don't know how his new job would take it when he would ask for a week and a half off from work. As far as the venue we do have that but I am not in love with it FI loves it and he knows that I don't love it... Now I am starting to wonder is this venue the one? I love the ceremony space but hate the reception areas its an upstairs and downstairs type thing which is what I hate...
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  • Danny&Mel2003Danny&Mel2003 member
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    Vent away I feel ya I am an indecisive person as well!!! I've been to two bridal shows one very well organized the other not and it just kind of made my head spin. My venue provided a list of preferred vendors which really helped especially the reviews on here with my local board. Now with Fi I make the appts and he comes if he wants it's optional however when comes to the final decisions I want his input because once contract is done no backing out. He is not afraid to say what's on his mind lol.
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  • melb2013melb2013 member
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    I'm a very decisive person, but I can definitely relate with the FI situation.  My FI could literally care less about the details.  He wanted the wedding, but he doesn't care about how it goes or how it looks at all.  I just figure I'm giving him the wedding, but it gets to be what I want. LOL.  He just says "that's nice" to everything.  Try not to take it personally- he trusts you to do it well!  In fact, my FI doesn't even want to go to vendor appointments- the less the better with him.  I bring my mom...  He just wants a wedding where his whole family can come and he wants to get married.  Everything else is gravy!

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  • joshkatybelljoshkatybell member
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     I am sorry you a stressed. I have stranged out plans a few time so I know how you feel there. My only optomistic comment is it could be worse haha. I though my FH would be like most and not care/have an opinion. Instead he is a groomsilla, doesn't like this, change this, i want this! AH

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  • sbc2013sbc2013
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    FI was also the "whatever you want, sweetie" type, and I was worried I would pick something he didn't like or that I would make a decision that he wanted to be involved in without involving him. I ended up making a list of all of the things that needed to be done/chosen for the wedding and asking him to put it into three piles--#1 was "I don't care so you can choose on your own," #2 was "I care a little so narrow down the choices for me and I'll help you choose," and #3 was "I care a lot so I want to be involved the whole way." He only put two things into pile #3, music and food, and our venue was in pile #2, and everything else was in pile #1. I mean, you could present this to FI and have him still put everything in pile #1, but at least then you don't have to feel like you're constantly asking him what he thinks about something only for him to have no opinion. Plus, maybe when you spell it all out for him like that, something on the list will hit him and he will realize he does have an opinion about something. 
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