addressing shower invitations.

dlynnb2006 · May 2011

Is it rude/tacky to ask people to address their own thank you note envelopes at your shower? By MOH swears by it but I am not sold on it.

mica178 · May 2011

I'm not a fan. I've never seen it done, but it just feels a little lazy to me.

dlynnb2006 · May 2011

I agree. But my MOH says that everyone does it and it would be weird not to do it. I have been to several showers and have never seen it done myself either.

Beachy730 · May 2011

This is happened at every shower I have been to. I didn't want to do it, and said I had no problem writing out everyone's addresses myself, so we didn't do it.

The other thing it's often used for is to draw names for door prizes and such at showers. I told my mom I would take care of that, so I wrote everyone's names on paper and had them put into a box for her ready to go.

pantherRN · May 2011

Yeah, I'd rather address my own. Probably 75% of the showers I have been to have done it, and while I don't get really annoyed, I think it is lazy.

tenofcups4me · May 2011

Yes, it's rude. You might as well just ask people to write their own notes too.

dlynnb2006 · May 2011

Thanks everyone. I'm glad to know I'm not as crazy as she thinks I am

jess9802 · May 2011

I've never seen this done at a shower and had never even HEARD of this until about a month ago on another wedding website. It's rude and I'd be put off if I was asked to do this at a shower.

Irishcurls · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-shower-invitations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:903a3f42-f364-420c-ad64-414e692ddbeaPost:3f7817d5-75aa-40d4-ab3c-6878c62e9b55">Re: addressing shower invitations.</a>:
[QUOTE]I've never seen this done at a shower and had never even HEARD of this until about a month ago on another wedding website. It's rude and I'd be put off if I was asked to do this at a shower.
Posted by jess9802[/QUOTE]
Ditto!

b0710 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-shower-invitations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:903a3f42-f364-420c-ad64-414e692ddbeaPost:29cd2ccd-edf9-4dcd-b126-0ed8dc11c5e0">Re: addressing shower invitations.</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree. But my MOH says that everyone does it and it would be weird not to do it. I have been to several showers and have never seen it done myself either.
Posted by dlynnb2006[/QUOTE]

I noticed your from the GR area, so I thought I would comment on this. I have seen this done at every single shower I have ever been to. Normally, people address their envelopes and they are put in a basket and randomly drawn out for little gifts. I'm not saying to do this, but I would definitely not think it strange to see it done, since every shower I've been to has had it. I totally understand taking the time to address them yourself as the bride, but I think most people would not think twice about it.

Calypso1977 · May 2011

yes, its rude. no one is that busy. no one.

Habs2Hart · May 2011

It happened at my shower. I didn't know any details, but my BM's gave me a box of TY cards and half of the envelopes were pre-addressed. I was a bit suprised. I'd never heard of it either.

Natrasha · May 2011

I've seen it at about half of the wedding/baby showers I've gone to. It definitely seems lazy. I would be upset if this happened at my shower, because I feel like it would look bad on me, even though I didn't plan the shower.

A friend gave me a "helpful tip" for my wedding the other day. She said I should put a stack of envelopes on the guestbook table and have people address them for their own thank you notes. I tried to be so nice while wanting to scream about what a terrible idea that was. I played up the destination aspect and said I didn't want to worry about getting the envelopes back to Milwauke from Vegas. I hope she comes on TK when she eventually gets engaged...

banana468 · May 2011

I loathe this. LOATHE.

If I take the time out of my day to shop, wrap the gift and then schlep myself in cute attire (sometimes while lugging my invited infant) then my "job" is done.

I expect refreshment and not to have to do anything once I'm at the party. If receiving a thank you note is contingent upon writing out the envelope I'm going to get in the mail then don't bother.

And for the record, this happened at a shower I attended a month ago. I drove over two hours to get there and then I was greeted by the MOB asking me to do this. It was too hectic to get to and now I still don't have a TY note.

This probably annoys me more than cash bars and tiered receptions.

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