CN: Ex-stepmother has brainwashed my younger sisters into thinking my dad doesn't care for them. Didn't let them come to my dad's wedding a few years ago, which really hurt my dad. I don't really talk to her, just the random text on birthday/holidays as I can't completely cut her out my life as she helped raise me and didn't directly do anything to hurt me. Now I'm getting married and have to call and let her know I want my sisters to attend, NOT her. I'm so nervous!
Longer Story:
My dad and ex-stepmom raised me. She was an amazing step-mom to me, even when my dad and her divorced. However, she has been nothing but nasty to my dad and has kept my younger sisters (18 and 14) away from him and has actually convinced them that my dad doesn't care for them or send child support, to the point that my sisters have disowned him (he calls, they don't answer, they only call for money; and he pays more child support than his mortgage!). Nonetheless, they are my sisters and I still hold out hope that they will open their eyes when they get older.
In order for my sisters to even get the invitation, it has to be through their mom. She doesn't take calls from my dad/completely says no to any requests from him out of spite (he has taken her to court, she doesn't comply with the orders). I have to put on my big girl pants and call her to let her know I'm getting married and that I want my sisters there, but not extend an invite to her.
Half of me feels guilty because she helped raise me and I feel not inviting her is not cool, but half doesn't want her there because she is a master manipulator and has hurt my dad and brainwashed my sister and would be a slap in the face to my dad. I wanted him to talk to her so my sisters can come (it's OOT, so they would have to take a flight), but my dad says I have to do it.
I nervously left a voicemail for her saying I want my sisters to attend. She just texted me and will call me after work today! I know the question of "why she isn't invited might come up, and she doesn't know that I know a lot moreabout the drama than she thinks I know. I just needed to write this down to expell some nervous energy.