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& guest seating...

The majority of our guest list are married/engaged/dating someone specific so most people we invited with their SO by name. We also extended a plus one to every "truly single" person on our guest list (adult only reception) most of our guests who aren't seeing anybody specific replied by themselves. Anyway my dads cousin replied that he is bringing his son which is fine, he's driving over 3 hours each way so I'm sure company in the car would be nice and his son is in his 30's so its not like thats interfering with our adult only plan. My question is I want to sit my dads cousin with my dads other cousins and other aunts/uncles who are all in their 50's-60's and would like to seat his "and guest" son at the table with my brother and my cousins who are all in their 20's-30's I think he'd have more fun at that table (these are all cousins he's related to also) is this ok?
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Re: & guest seating...

  • pkontkpkontk member
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    You could ask your dad's cousin, and his son, what they prefer.  If the son feels more comfortable sitting with his father I think you should respect those wishes, or at least try to accommodate them.
  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guest-seating-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2bdaead-e2f5-48a3-85bd-d1b3ec964c97Post:f4bc6bf5-5026-4a93-902c-b688977a8dba">Re: & guest seating...</a>:
    [QUOTE]You could ask your dad's cousin, and his son, what they prefer.  If the son feels more comfortable sitting with his father I think you should respect those wishes, or at least try to accommodate them.
    Posted by pkontk[/QUOTE]

    I agree that I would ask.
    Lizzie
  • I would also ask what he prefers. We had some guests who were adults (early 20s) invited with their parents/families, and we just asked them if they preferred sitting with their parents or with other guests their age, even if they didn't know them. Most preferred to sit with their families, actually, but I would ask to double check.


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  • I'd probably ask, but usually would assume an "& guest" would be sat with the person they are going with.
  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    edited July 2012
    I'd want to sit with my guest, not some random table of people I don't know who happen to be my age.
  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guest-seating-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2bdaead-e2f5-48a3-85bd-d1b3ec964c97Post:b1139001-0555-4444-97e0-213a186f5a4b">Re: & guest seating...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd want to sit with my guest, not some random table of people I don't know who happen to be my age.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    I think cousin would know these people too if I read the OP correctly. I'd certainly rather sit with my cousins than my aunts and uncles ...
    Lizzie
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guest-seating-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2bdaead-e2f5-48a3-85bd-d1b3ec964c97Post:b1139001-0555-4444-97e0-213a186f5a4b">Re: & guest seating...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd want to sit with my guest, not some random table of people I don't know who happen to be my age.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    According to the OP, they're all related.
  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    edited July 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guest-seating-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2bdaead-e2f5-48a3-85bd-d1b3ec964c97Post:39f966c7-7f81-47fb-88c8-a4fca4def45f">Re: & guest seating...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: & guest seating... : I think cousin would know these people too if I read the OP correctly. I'd certainly rather sit with my cousins than my aunts and uncles ...
    Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

    If they all know each other, then I agree that's different.  I couldn't tell from her post, though. 

    Related doesn't mean they know each other.  I'm related to a lot of cousins I don't know.  And, this cousin wasn't invited to the wedding so I'm not sure what kind of relation they even have with him.

    Call and ask, OP.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guest-seating-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2bdaead-e2f5-48a3-85bd-d1b3ec964c97Post:39f966c7-7f81-47fb-88c8-a4fca4def45f">Re: & guest seating...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: & guest seating... : I think cousin would know these people too if I read the OP correctly. I'd certainly rather sit with my cousins than my aunts and uncles ...
    Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>You did read correctly, he definitely knows the cousins he would be sitting with, very well actually. I just didn't invite him because we invited only first cousins and he is the son of my dads cousin who my dad has always been very close to. The cousin in question and my brother are actually really good friends and 3 of the other cousins sitting at that table he lived with for a few years at one point. He would definitely feel comfortable with this group; theres nobody at the table that he would be unfamiliar with. </div><div>
    </div><div>You're right I should just ask, they live in a place where cell phones never work but I am going to see if I can get an email address from my dad. 

    </div>
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guest-seating-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2bdaead-e2f5-48a3-85bd-d1b3ec964c97Post:b1139001-0555-4444-97e0-213a186f5a4b">Re: & guest seating...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd want to sit with my guest, not some random table of people I don't know who happen to be my age.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    This.  And it isn't like these people are going to be chained to their tables all night long.  Once they are done eating they are free to get up and mingle as they wish.

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