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Ever feel like this too? (Vent)

ufsweetiebearufsweetiebear member
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Have you ever felt that the point of a wedding somehow got lost? It seems like every time I turn around, someone is informing me that they're coming to my wedding. Granted, FI is from Detroit and we currently live in Columbus so our Tampa wedding is a bit of a destination for some. But does that give you the right to use my wedding as an excuse for you to take a vacation? I don't want to know how you're swinging through my wedding and then heading to Miami, Orlando, etc. I've put a lot of time and thought (and money!) into this wedding just to be a pitstop on someone's itinerary. When did it stop being an honor - but now an expectation - to be invited to a person's wedding? Argh!

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Re: Ever feel like this too? (Vent)

  • corstinkcorstink member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going through the same thing right now. And FI and his family don't seem to get the cost that goes into adding another person.
    If those people who are inviting themselves aren't people you had planned on inviting then I would say that you are just having a small wedding with few guests. Of course that doesn't work if the family blabs about how much your spending and how many people are going to be there lol.
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  • ufsweetiebearufsweetiebear member
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    edited December 2011

    Yea, it started off as FI's family... but now even some of my acquaintences (not super close friends) are talking about their plans to come to my wedding. My save-the-dates haven't even gone out yet!

    I guess I wasn't prepared. LOL

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  • corstinkcorstink member
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    edited December 2011
    lol...Yeah i had people I work with do that to me as well. My boss (who i only just started working for) made a comment about being invited....which was really uncomfortable.

    People seem to lose all manners and etiquette when it comes to weddings...which is so weird!
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  • aallenbaaallenba
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah it's happened here..."miscommunication" between my parents and I...although I do not believe there was any miscommunication on my part. Anyways the easiest thing I did with my mom and dad is have them put me on speaker phone so there was no "well you're mom said you said this..or dad said you said this" and we were able to all agree on who was invited and who wasn't.


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  • ag.4.24.10ag.4.24.10 member
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    edited December 2011
    Well I had this girl,  I use to be really good friends with in HS but we kind of went our separate ways. One day on FB she Msg me and asked if she was invited to the wedding....What was I suppose to say to her? I haven't seen her in 5 or 6 years or even talked to her. It just amazes me how people can just ask that question. And just for asking I don't want to invite them. LOL
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  • diamondgrrl5diamondgrrl5
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    edited December 2011

    I've had people try to invite themselves too.  I simply make the comment that we are having a very intimate wedding with only family and very few friends.  As much as we would love to invite everyone we don't have the budget to do so.  You could even suggest doing a post-wedding barbecue or get together to celebrate with any folks that couldn't attend.

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  • ufsweetiebearufsweetiebear member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm with the pp.... it's a complete turn off
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