Registry Etiquette....help?

crystallin1126 · June 2010

My fiance and myself already have a house full things and dont need the typical wedding registry gifts. My bridemaids are somewhat pushing me to do a registry anyways, they say just put new stuff on that you guys would want. Thing is, we dont need anything new or anything at all, we dont have room for what we already have and I dont feel right just "picking stuff" to fill a registry. I'm the type of person that buys what I need when I need it typically, so we really dont need anything. I was thinking about doing a Cash registry/Honeymoon registry but am unsure of how to go about doing it? And is that rude to ask for that?

What do I do?

quotequeen · June 2010

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[QUOTE]My fiance and myself already have a house full things and dont need the typical wedding registry gifts. My bridemaids are somewhat pushing me to do a registry anyways, they say just put new stuff on that you guys would want. Thing is, we dont need anything new or anything at all, we dont have room for what we already have and I dont feel right just "picking stuff" to fill a registry. I'm the type of person that buys what I need when I need it typically, so we really dont need anything. I was thinking about doing a Cash registry/Honeymoon registry but am unsure of how to go about doing it? And is that rude to ask for that? What do I do?
Posted by crystallin1126[/QUOTE]

If you don't want to register then don't, but don't register for cash either. If you don't register at all most people will give you cash, but some will really want to give you physical gifts so you will wind up with some of those anyway. Nobody needs a "cash registry" in order to give you cash.

lizstill13 · June 2010

Don't set up a cash/honeymoon registry. It's tacky and you'll probably lose some of what people are trying to gift to you in the process (fees and such from the website).

Pass the word around through friends and family that you guys don't need anything, but maybe you're saving for something? A house, home improvements, whatever. People will mostly get the hint and give you cash.

MNVegas · June 2010

Asking for cash is rude and HM registires are very deceiving to your guests. They think they are actually buying you a gift when if fact you get a check, minus the fees, from the HM registry.

You can let guest know, if they ask, that you have everything you need but are saving for a HM. You will probably get some cash gifts without asking, so put that money toward your HM and plan something you can afford.

ros3392 · June 2010

I would encourage a small registry because there are just some people who prefer to BUY you something. DF and I just came back from BB&B from doing our first registry and we also have a house full of stuff that we want and really don't have a ton of space for new stuff. We upgraded our pots and pans, registered for a Keurig coffee pot, a new knife set, nice crystal decanter set, nicer serving ware, nicer sheets, nicer towels, a second bathroom set (don't you get tired of looking at the same shower curtain?) think of upgrading! These items are ALL things that we already have, but would like nicer, newer items.

Aren't you going to have a shower? What will people bring?

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