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Family Fiasco Shower

mbear14mbear14 member
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As the bride, I know this decision isn't particularly up to me, but I'd like to get some answers for my anxiety-ridden relatives. My aunt left my (blood) uncle in the summer. Their daughter is my MOH, and so she will be throwing me a bridal shower. The shower is going to be at my other aunt's house (this aunt is the older sister of my uncle who got separated). Should we invite my MOH's mom? My aunts and my mom think it will be super awkward, since they haven't spoken with her in months--but, she is my MOH's mom, and she always was really close with all of us. I still see her from time to time, and I think it's awkward, too, to be honest. Is this something that we need to be gracious about, or try to avoid an awkward shower?
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Re: Family Fiasco Shower

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    Are you inviting that aunt to your wedding? If not, don't invite her to the shower. If she  is invited to the wedding, I would leave it up to the MOH. Has your aunt done something to your mom and sisters that make them feel that way?
                       
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  • mbear14mbear14 member
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    edited December 2011
    She is invited to the wedding, but she has a restraining order on my uncle, so since he's the blood relation, he's coming and she won't--unless she revokes the restraining order, of course.
    Basically, my two aunts, who are the two older sisters of my uncle, feel hurt and uncomfortable around their little brother's ex.
    But, technically, she IS invited to the wedding, although she probably won't show... I just feel bad for my MOH because she lives with her mom, and it's kind of hard to hide the fact she's throwing me a shower.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    That's a tough situation. You aren't obligated to invite the aunt to your shower. Do you think your MOH would feel more comfortable if your aunts acted as the official hosts of the shower? It doesn't sound like your estranged aunt would expect an invitation from them. I think it would be very difficult for your cousin to exclude her mom from the guest list.

    I feel bad for your MOH, too. I'm sure her life isn't very easy right now, with her parents going through a messy divorce.
                       
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  • mbear14mbear14 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the advice about having my aunts host instead. That may be just what we need to do. :) And, thanks for the understanding words--they help a lot!
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