So... originally FI and I decided we were going to invite 200 people. Not 299, not 201... 200. As FI and I made our individual lists, he went a little over. I let one or two extra people slide... then it was 105. Now he said he really wanted to add 4 more people. One woman and her husband I don't mind inviting (she is helping a group of women from his church throw me a shower). One of the new people on his list is a girl who I really don't want to invite. FI and I have been together for 4 years now. Out of all of the people our age in his church, she is the ONLY one who has not tried to get to know me at all. Some nights everyone will go out to dinner afterwards, and occasionally, she tags along. A few times she sat across from us and talked to FI the entire time, and basically ignoring me. FI and the girl are not close, so I really don't get why she needs to be invited. There are other people from that group who aren't invited (because we aren't close with them), so it's not like she would be the only one not invited. I talked to FI about it the other night and said I didn't really feel comfortable inviting her... but today when FI sent me the addresses from the additional people (which he made tonight) she was still on it. I asked him last night if they were good friends and his response was no, but they used to be friends in high school (he graduated 5 years ago, and she is younger than us). So it's not like I don't want to invite his best friend or anything.
It may seem like it's not a big deal to many, but I really don't want this girl to come. How can I get FI to change his mind without saying, "I don't like her... she's not coming." As we are already over our limit, I would rather not go over budget to invite someone I don't even want to come. Sorry for the long rant, but I don't know what to do and it's driving me crazy.