Anyone else honoring loved ones who have passed?

phoenix870509 · March 2013

Family is very important to my FI and me, and we wanted to honor our loved ones who have passed away. We've talked to both our families and we have their blessing. My godmother and his godmother (or godfather if his godmother can't make it) will be given a certain number of white roses. After the ceremony they will present them to me, and I will then put them on a table with pictures of our grandparents and uncles who have passed. Then during the reception after the major dances the DJ is going to play "Wind Beneath My Wings" and no one will be allowed on the dance floor.

I had hoped my Nana would be around to see me get married, but she passed back in October. I know she'll be there though, along with my Pop-Pop who passed almost 7 years ago.

melicifant · March 2013

That sounds wonderful!

Christine9866 · March 2013

I have lost my dad and FI lost his mother. FIs dad is an artist and drew portraits of my dad and FIs mom. They will be on the same table as our unity candle during our ceremony along with a memorial candle. The JOP wrote a beautiful piece to say before we light the memorial candle. The candle and portraits will then be brought into the reception and placed on the gift table.

Eisel2Be · March 2013

I want to do something, but havent figured out actual what yet...these are good suggestions though!

bdpbride · March 2013

My fiance lost his dad when he was in college and its definitely left a hole in his life, trying to incorporate his memory into the ceremony was really important to us. To start our wedding processional, my fiance is going to escort his sister down the asile and she will hand off a candle to him to light a memorial candle up near the altar. Once that's lit then we will continue the rest of the processional. It's kind of a prominent moment and I was worried it would seem too sad at first but I think it says "now that we have noted he is with us in spirit, we can start the wedding". I know he is really going to be missing his dad that day.

LuckyGirl1713 · March 2013

I would cry my eyes out at any of these things but then again I am a huge crybaby. I think it's wonderful that you are incorporating these special touches into your wedding days.

phoenix870509 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2013-weddings_anyone-else-honoring-loved-ones-who-have-passed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:820178d7-4f43-4671-bcab-c5c2c01eef1eDiscussion:227a214f-3931-447f-b186-75e59fb16bcePost:2e407294-1cbb-4c9b-a612-3755c6b8a4d1">Re: Anyone else honoring loved ones who have passed?</a>:
[QUOTE]I would cry my eyes out at any of these things but then again I am a huge crybaby. I think it's wonderful that you are incorporating these special touches into your wedding days.
Posted by LuckyGirl1713[/QUOTE]

Oh I will be crying when they play Wind Beneath My Wings, as will my mom and FMIL. Both of them associate that song with their fathers. And I cry when I see other people crying so I will probably start crying!

melicifant · March 2013

I'm walking down the aisle to the only song that would sooth and settle my dad when he was dying.
I am using the cake serving set my mom and dad used when they got married. My step dad got all bent I wasn't using his set so we are using that one on the groom's cake.
I'm using quite a few family heirlooms in my wedding as ways to remember my family members who have passed.
We won't do anything outright to honor the ones who have passed. I am afraid it would be too hard on my mother and family.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

I'm wearing my grandmother's wedding ring on my right hand. My sister did the same thing when she got married and my younger cousin plans on doing it when she does. Also, the moms and bridesmaids are walking down the aisle to Ave Maria which was my grandmother's favorite song.

orangehills · March 2013

I'm not doing too much because I didn't want to depress anyone at the wedding, I didn't feel it was the place. So I'm having a picture of me and my dad in a locket on my bouquet, so he can still walk me down the aisle in spirit

. Then in the program, I have a little note by a rose that says In Loving Memory of "my dad" so that people who don't know me (some of FI crowd) know why he isn't there. I'm also using the cake serving set my parents used, that has their names on it.

mabapunta · March 2013

All of your ideas sound really lovely

We haven't made it a major point to honor anyone, although we unintentionally chose my Grandma's birthday as our wedding day - so that will be a nice reminder for me as she was the only grandparent I really got to spend much time with. I was also planning to put her e-ring/band on my bouquet, but I really like the idea of wearing it instead on my right hand - thanks vonclancy! I'm just a little paranoid I'll forget the bouquet somewhere.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

My father passed away when I was just barely 22. I'm going to have a table of family photos at the reception with a sign I bought at Hobby Lobby that says something about Family. I very specifically do not want any portraits of those that had passed away (I think that's a bit too much, IMO), but family photos, or wedding photos, that include them are perfect.

We've also modified our wedding ceremony to include a Catholic prayer that my dad taught me, and I'm tying my grandmother's (mom's mother's) wedding rings to my bouquet. That's about it.

Marla41313 · March 2013

We are just doing a table with candles and there names in front with a poem in the middle no pictures because a couple of deaths were within the year

Anyone else honoring loved ones who have passed?

Re: Anyone else honoring loved ones who have passed?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards