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Ms.BriarRose · November 2010

Happy one month anniversary!!!

How are you all liking married life?

I have to say, while it is the same as before, it feels different- I wish I could describe it a bit better, but it's just a feeling. Like, he's my husband now, and we are together forever, all that fun stuff- it gives me a warm, fuzzy feeling that makes me so happy inside.

I can't believe how fast 1 month went by!

dibsontop · November 2010

Happy one month to you as well!

I'm still waiting for "the change". Everyone always says how it's different than just living together, but I've yet to feel that. It's like we came back from the honeymoon and just picked right back up where we left off, just without any wedding planning going on!

But the first month definitely flew by! But I'm so excited that it did because that means I've only got a couple more weeks until my pictures should be ready. I can't wait!

Today is also my birthday and we'll be going out to dinner tonight. So in a way, we kind of get to celebrate our first month as well. DH was away on a business trip and got a flight in late last night (he got home around midnight), just to be sure not to miss my bday.

Ms.BriarRose · November 2010

That's so sweet of him!

Happy birthday! Make sure to enjoy yourself.

I don't know what it is. Maybe it's everyone addressing me as Mrs. W, maybe it's seeing my name changed in the church bulletin, maybe it's calling each other husband and wife, maybe it's the talk of kids and all that. Whatever it is, it makes me smile every time I think about it.

Mattsbride10 · November 2010

Happy Birthday Erin!

Honustly I got depressed for about two weeks after the honeymoon and I'm not even sure why. I don't know if it was because everything was the same when we came home(not that I was expecting a huge change), my turning 30 a week after the wedding, the number of things I found wrong with my reception or a combination of everything. My wedding day was the second best day of my life(with my son's birth being the first) and I enjoyed myself so immensely I wish over and over that I could do it again so my depression still perplexes me and I almost feel silly having been so upset. Thankfully I am all over it now. I realized whats important is just having my husband in my life(with or without the big wedding) and the love that we share with one another. I'm glad I read this post because you just reminded me to call my hubby and wish him a Happy One month Anniversary. He was tickled pink when I did.

Ms.BriarRose · November 2010

Lisa- you are too cute

I can picture you calling him

I know what you mean, though. With everything that has been going on in my life, planning the wedding helped to "validate" me- it gave me something to do, something to make me feel useful and important. Now that the wedding is over, for a week or so, I have been battling depression big time. I have a history of it, and with everything that I have dealt with in my life these past few years, it is not surprising at all that it lurks beneath the surface. But, I started back to work today (just simple secretary work at the family business), so that's helping me and giving me a reason to get up in the morning and get things accomplished. Coming to work with your hubby isn't so bad either.

I plan on watching myself over the next few weeks- as does hubby- to see if things plateau, get worse, or get better. Depending on where I am in a month or so will decide if I need to see my PCP for meds and see a therapist for talk therapy.

I won't lie, talk therapy is a wonderful thing- and my counselor from before when I had depression was AWESOME. Lisa, if you want his name (it's different from the pre-marital counseling person), I can pass it on to you. He is really big with the younger generations (oh, I would say 50 and under), and really makes you work at yourself. Before him, I refused to see male therapists. But he was so amazing, I am really glad I changed my opinion and opened up to seeing him.

Mattsbride10 · November 2010

Yeah I have a history of depression too and I wouldn't mind nipping this in the bud. That would be great if you could pass along his info to me. Thank you.

Ms.BriarRose · November 2010

I'll send you a PM.

Mrs.LuraT · November 2010

Wait till you hit the one year mark...
btw, I never felt any different after the wedding. We just picked up right where we left off.

dibsontop · November 2010

Glad to hear that. I was thinking I was the only one. For me, I don't know what will finally make me feel like "we're married". Other than kids, that is.

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