Mods, why?

redheadfsu · November 2010

Mods,

This is at least the third time you have closed a discussion because people disagree with the OP. Great way to turn this board into a ghost town.

SeaTea02 · November 2010

Agreed. I mainly lurk over here as I am a NYE reg. I commented on an odd post made by a girl on your board who had just been flamed by us and linked to her backstory. The whole post was deleted.

This isn't quite as bad as the favors mod but come on. Its like Google China in here.

MissOwl · November 2010

seatea, i love your comments in NEY but this comment takes the cake. hilarious!

SeaTea02 · November 2010

Thank you Owl :-)

It just seems to me like the mods are here to be knot annie's eyes and things that aren't abnormal or against terms and conditions should be left alone.

future-mrs · November 2010

Read: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_rules-reminder-please-read

Specifically: "Yes, we are going to ban you if you’re malicious towards another user. Personal attacks of any kind are unacceptable, so please be mindful of the way you address others. Please be considerate to others and refrain from responding to a post if your answer could be rude, hateful, or harassing towards another member."

When a point is made, there's no reason to continue to badger the OP. They are closed because it's obviously only going to just snowball.

SeaTea02 · November 2010

If that post was worthy of being shut down then 80% of the posts on TK should be closed.

I agree with Bren. You are using prior restraint and trying to stop something before it actually happens. The OP didn't even have a chance to respond.

future-mrs · November 2010

I didn't preemptively shut a thread down. Comments like these aren't tolerated:

[QUOTE]Seriously? Grow up. [/QUOTE]

[QUOTE]Wow. You sound really ungrateful.

Do you actually love <em>this</em> guy? Or do you just want to have <em>someone</em> give you a wonderful proposal "experience"??

It's too bad that he didn't pay attention to what you had requested. Maybe he was daydreaming while you were chitterchattering or maybe he just couldn't afford it. But if you want to marry him, you should be happy with the idea of marrying him, and the jewellery is a secondary piece. Lots of people get "engaged" without a ring, and are ecstatic to start planning their wedding and their lives together. [/QUOTE]

I could keep going. There are boards on this forum that may find this behavior acceptable. This isn't one of them. It's to congratulate the newly engaged, answer questions politely and so on. It's not to bash OP's over and over like I continually see.

coastiegrl25 · November 2010

So, in your opinion it is all supposed to be puppies and rainbows? The ladies weren't giving cruel advice. They were telling the OP to just be happy with the man she is going to marry instead of whining about a proposal. Noone was bashing, or calling anyone names. I don't get it?

calindi · November 2010

There's nothing in those comments that violates the rules and regulations of TK. Sure, they're not friendly and a pat on the shoulder, but even to me it sounded like the OP needed a bit of a wake up call. I mean, even to my best friends I'll occasionally say "grow up" if they're acting like a whiney toddler.

And more to the point - telling someone to "grow up" or that they "sound really ungrateful" is a lot different than calling someone an immature self-involved child. Which certainly would be against TK rules.

But stopping something because it "might snowball" is silly. You might as well delete any OP that posts anything potentially controversial. Like all the little princesses whose ring just isn't big enough, or the charmers who said no because it just wasn't the right proposal she had written in her diary when she was 12 years old. Because I just see those and laugh to myself and pity the groom, but some people on here actually try to give them a bit of a wake up call so they don't sabotage what might otherwise be a perfectly good relationship. Me, I'm not interested in saving their relationship. I find them amusing in their own crazy way.

SeaTea02 · November 2010

I guess the problem with "the rules" is that they are subjective. To me those comments aren't rude. Harsh, yes, but that bride did not deserve a big warm congratulations, she came here asking for advice and IMO she got exactly what she deserved.

Obviously, your borad DOES find this behavior acceptable as many poster have responded that way on many occasions. You aren't reflecting the mood or style of the posters but rather what you think this board should be like.

Next time just send them over to NYE. We won't fill their heads with false validations and encourage foolish behavior.

coastiegrl25 · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engaged-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:ee1970e6-ffc4-454e-a2ba-ffbcf7b55471Post:c9627de2-dcc4-4ead-9af9-402fda31d485">Re: Engaged!</a>:
[QUOTE]Congratulations!! I know what an exciting time this is for you! I am a wedding photographer, and I work all over Texas, mainly in and around Houston. I'd love to visit with you about photographing your wedding. I have packages for every budget. Please visit my website (jerryphotos.com). Shoot me an email at jerry@jerryphotos.com , and we can set up a free consultation! I look forward to hearing from you, and hopefully, being part of your big day!
Posted by Jerry B Smith Photography[/QUOTE]

Andalsothis. You let advertising and spam in your posts, but not advice. I see. As long as you have services to offer or the puppies and rainbows response of the AWW CONGRATS! Then it won't work for this board.

ETA: The rules according to KnotAnnie-
<ul><li>No soliciting of any kind on the message boards or in the chat room -- it is neither allowed nor appreciated by the community. If you are interested in advertising opportunities, please contact salesinfo@theknot.com </li><li>Wedding professionals involved in a wedding-related enterprise cannot post any information on The Knot message boards, even if offering services free of charge. </li></ul>

SeaTea02 · November 2010

Coastie, that is classic. Talk about being against TK rules. I don't think the no advertising rule is subject to opinion like as words like "rude" are.

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