Are you guys the only normal people here?

Cryssteen · September 2012

I don't know what is up with the knot's boards... but LORDY. Maybe the wedding (or in some cases, very far off post-wedding) stress is getting to them. But, many of these boards are filled with snippy, nasty people. I find I only get constructive advice - both to my posts and by reading others - here and on the DIY boards. If nothing else, they're entertaining.

Anyway - April 2013 brides - thanks for being YOU! Maybe we just haven't hit that level of stress yet?

xoxo

Gossip Girl*

*(I might have been watching a Netflix marathon lately)

FutureMrsKupko · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2013-weddings_are-you-guys-the-only-normal-people-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:820178d7-4f43-4671-bcab-c5c2c01eef1eDiscussion:f6257933-30f2-405a-b061-c354b17e3d75Post:c1176646-5672-4e5c-8fec-b54b7d66f5b7">Are you guys the only normal people here?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't know what is up with the knot's boards... but LORDY. Maybe the wedding (or in some cases, very far off post-wedding) stress is getting to them. But, many of these boards are filled with snippy, nasty people. I find I only get constructive advice - both to my posts and by reading others - here and on the DIY boards. If nothing else, they're entertaining. Anyway - April 2013 brides - thanks for being YOU! Maybe we just haven't hit that level of stress yet? xoxo Gossip Girl* *(I might have been watching a Netflix marathon lately)
Posted by Cryssteen[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I know EXACTLY what you mean- I cant count the times I had my head chopped off verbally after posting for advice on different boards. Some people are just nasty and its uncalled for. I think because its online, people think they can get away with being mean to people. I am glad I have a safe haven here on this board. You shouldnt be afraid to ask for advice and opinions, because we are all trying to learn and figure out what to do! :)</div>

[Deleted User] · September 2012

I agree, this is the only board I check regularly anymore because I got tired of the garbage you find on other boards!

tosha9266 · September 2012

i totally agree! i asked about the regestry thing on wedding wire and some lady said " please lord grant me the power of puching this b**** threw the internet" people are mean lol

FutureMrsKupko · September 2012

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[QUOTE]i totally agree! i asked about the regestry thing on wedding wire and some lady said " please lord grant me the power of puching this b**** threw the internet" people are mean lol
Posted by tosha9266[/QUOTE]

<div>Well dang!! lol I bet she is the nicest person in person too lol Some people must feel to take out their daily stress on others on these boards</div>

orangehills · September 2012

Yeah, it just depends on the board. If it's an etiquette question that is being asked, many people are just very blunt with their answers, and if the original poster doesn't like the advice or gets upset and defensive, that is when they tend to go off. I think you just have to lurk for awhile and get the hang of certain boards before posting- it's like research! lol.

Blondy214 · September 2012

Thank you!! I totally agree! I'm so glad that we have such a nice group of ladies here

mabapunta · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2013-weddings_are-you-guys-the-only-normal-people-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:820178d7-4f43-4671-bcab-c5c2c01eef1eDiscussion:f6257933-30f2-405a-b061-c354b17e3d75Post:1879c886-83c9-4bbf-8460-c1e1b8ebd73d">Re: Are you guys the only normal people here?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, it just depends on the board. If it's an etiquette question that is being asked, many people are just very blunt with their answers, and if the original poster doesn't like the advice or gets upset and defensive, that is when they tend to go off. I think you just have to lurk for awhile and get the hang of certain boards before posting- it's like research! lol.
Posted by orangehills[/QUOTE]

Nooooo kidding. Generally people are polite with their responses, but when it comes to disagreeing about etiquette, people really let everyone know exactly how they feel. And from what I've seen, they are not taking into account cultural or regional differences. Crazy stuff.

Haven't seen any of that craziness here, so I agree - thanks everyone for being nice and supportive!

lcatterton · September 2012

I'm a little late, but boy do I agree!! I take it all with a grain of salt though. It's MY choice whether I listen to all these other crazy brides, so while they may come across as rude or whatever, I tend to ignore it. They do get a little overboard sometimes!!!! Especially if they think you are asking a stupid question.. NO QUESTION IS STUPID, that's why it's a QUESTION! Haha.

ChiGirl2013 · September 2012

A lot of boards cycle, too. When I first got engaged, it was 2008 and I joined in 2009. I spent a LOT of time on one board in particular and the ladies were amazing! Then they all went off and got married and the new people coming in were just flat out MEAN. I stopped going there, and even created a new account so none of them would ever track me down. Seriously... they would hunt people down when they posted on other boards and continue the personal attacks on every board that person went to. I am hoping that those people are gone by now and that board has returned to normal, although I would never go back to check it out because those select few people left such a bad taste in my mouth.

shipsinthenight · September 2012

I don't know if it's just us, because when I was on the Not Engaged Yet board, those ladies were pretty nice. I've noticed there are certain topics that tend to raise a lot of bile and ire with people. Dissagreements about etiquette is deffenitely number one. The subject of a quick small wedding followed by a second, larger celebration is another. I can't tell you how many times I've read "a JOP wedding is still a wedding, and you don't get another one!" Not that I completely dissagree with this, but some of the vehemence is not always called for...And the third topic that seems to make everyone cranky is money. Especially, and related to the JOP wedding/second celebration topic, people who either plan beyond their means or are having other budgetary issues. A lot of people also get upset when someone is venting and maybe not totally justified. But we all need a safe place to let go. I think we feel a special affection for the members of this board, we are a sort of sorrority of April '13 brides, and we all try extra hard to be nice, even when we don't agree. I hope some of the people who are cranky on most boards are a little nicer on their "home" boards. I remember gettng chewed out on a money related issue by a MoB whose daughter is already married. I was upset that my FILs are not contributing financially and that this is making planning more difficult, and fi is their only child. I needed a place to vent and I was blasted for being a money hungry brat...I will always be upset by this, telling me anything about how I'm not entitled to anything from anyone will not change my feelings, and I knew that already. I know people think they're giving good advice, and they may be, and they may be speaking the truth, but the issue is that sometimes (almost always) you are talking about feelings, which are hard to just turn off, and desires people have had since they were children. Adjusting expectations is always difficult. I think my biggest problem is that some people think they know everything, but don't seem to key into feelings very well. Or they read a post, but they only skim it and skip something important someone wrote. They just seem to think their personal experience is all they need, nevermind empathy or restraint. So let's keep up our kindness and consideration, not only on this board, but when we visit other boards.

Cryssteen · September 2012

to all. I'm coming here for all my advice. Not gonna lie, though - I LOVE reading through the fights on other boards. Kinda makes my life! xo

vanityink · September 2012

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[QUOTE]<3 to all. I'm coming here for all my advice. Not gonna lie, though - I LOVE reading through the fights on other boards. Kinda makes my life! xo
Posted by Cryssteen[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I'm likewise guilty of reading fights on the other boards. Some are amazingly entertaining (I imagine as long as you aren't invovled personally...)

And while I agree with some of the points that always seem to be made elsewhere, I don't completely understand the "second" wedding thing. Yes it could be seen as a gift grab, but also sometimes circumstances are such that you have to get married legally before hand and then have your wedding later. I'm going to a wedding next month where the couple got married with just their families, went off on their honeymoon, and now are having a big "wedding" for all their friends who couldn't make it before hand. I personally don't see a problem with it if it's what they choose to do. But maybe that's because I'm also familiar with German weddings where EVERYONE does a legal ceremony and then most do a religious ceremony with a big "wedding" (since you can't legally be married by a religious official alone). If someone else has insights, please let me know...

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