Man of Honour

girl4182 · February 2013

One of my closest friends is male. Our intial plan was to have him as a groomsmen. After reading various posts on these boards I've decided that it seems silly to have him stand with my fiancee when he should be with me. The thought of him not being there with me makes me sad. I had decided to ask him to be a man of honour. Since I'm lucky enough to have a large bridal party of people I love dearly I thought he could share the title while my maid and matron of honour and he could walk down the aisle with one of them on each arm.

My maid of honour thought it was a great idea, my matron of honour is concerned about the bride and groom having uneven sides and my mom says that I will be centering him out.

I was planning on talking to him tonight but now I'm wondering if I'll be putting him in an awkward spot, which is the last thing I want to do. I didn't think of any of these things, just that I wanted him with me. It's not like I was planing on making him wear a dress.

daveANDkristen · February 2013

Your idea to have your male friend in your WP is fine. Tell your Matron of Honor that there is not need for even sides (this should not be her concern anyway). Ask your friend to stand on your side, and if he accepts, tell your mom that he's a big boy and he can decide what makes him comfortable. I assume by "centering him out" you meant singling him out? Like that he will be the only male on your side? If so, don't sweat it. As long as he is comfrotable with it, that's all that matters.

girl4182 · February 2013

Thanks. "Centering him out" were my mom's words. I'm assuming that's what she meant.

AddieCake · February 2013

He should definitely stand with you if he is your friend.

CVan86 · February 2013

That is a great idea! Love the idea of having him walk arm in arm with the maid and matron of honor. I went to a wedding where they had a Man of Honor, and it worked out perfectly. The bridal party had a lot of fun together, and since he was closer with the girls than the guys, it just made sense.

You know him best - what is his personality like? Is he outgoing and confident? If so, he will probably feel honored and excited to stand up for you, and won't care what side he is on. If you think it will put him in an awkward spot, ask him to be your man of honor and if he accepts, maybe give him the option of where he wants to stand.