BP problems..need advice!

Re: BP problems..need advice!

• Stina51286 member

  

  February 2013

  You don't need someone to stand on your side. The wedding world just wants girls to think they do.

   

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• zitiqueen member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bp-problemsneed-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad1c6f8f-70de-4e3f-8dd2-3fb7068cc183Post:b5b57ad1-094d-4958-ab5d-6ed769d990e1">BP problems..need advice!</a>:
  [QUOTE]Ok, bride-to-be stressed out here. When I got engaged, I imagined a small elopement type ceremony. My FI on the other hand wants a 50+ ceremony with all his family and friends, traditional ceremony with his two best friends next to him. I don't have friends or close family, which is why I wanted an elopement style. Now I am stressed and depressed because<strong> I have to choose two people to stand up for me during my ceremony</strong> and I have no one. I've let him know how hurt I am that I don't know/have anybody and he has  been really supportive offering advice, but I'm still at a loss of what to do? Any suggestions?
  Posted by Itsabouttime88[/QUOTE]
  
  No, you don't.

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• Viczaesar member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bp-problemsneed-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ad1c6f8f-70de-4e3f-8dd2-3fb7068cc183Post:b5b57ad1-094d-4958-ab5d-6ed769d990e1">BP problems..need advice!</a>:
  [QUOTE]Ok, bride-to-be stressed out here. When I got engaged, I imagined a small elopement type ceremony. My FI on the other hand wants a 50+ ceremony with all his family and friends, traditional ceremony with his two best friends next to him. I don't have friends or close family, which is why I wanted an elopement style. Now I am stressed and depressed because I have to choose two people to stand up for me during my ceremony and I have no one. I've let him know how hurt I am that I don't know/have anybody and he has  been really supportive offering advice, but I'm still at a loss of what to do? Any suggestions?
  Posted by Itsabouttime88[/QUOTE]
  
  
  You don't need to have a wedding party just because your FI is, and you definitely shouldn't choose people that you're not close to just for the sake of filling spots.

  
  
  
  

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• LDubHawksFan member

  

  February 2013

  You don't need one or two BMs if you don't want. 

  
  

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• beardownbchs member

  

  February 2013

  Wedding parties do not have to be equal at all. He can have 15 people and you can have zero. This is totally fine and no one will side-eye you. If they do, it's their fault, not yours.

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• KatWAG member

  

  February 2013

  Wait until about 6 months before your wedding, and see if things have changed. You might have grown close with someone by then. If you hvaent, then skip it

  

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• AddieCake member

  

  February 2013

  Ditto everyone else. Don't let this stress you out.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• daveANDkristen member

  

  February 2013

  I agree with PPs, a wedding party is not required at all and doesn't have to be symmetrical. However, I wanted to mention, if you have a close male friend it is ok to have a Man of Honor (rather than a maid). You said no friends, but in case you meant no girlfriends, I wanted to add that.

  
  

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• Itsabouttime88

  

  February 2013

  Thanks for all the advice. I do worry about people will think about the lack of family on my side. I don't know his family very well and don't want to feel their stares or the whispers. The thought of not having at least one person in my bridal party would only make me feel more uneasy, but all your ladies words on encouragement has made me feel better about it. One of my FI's groomsmen (the one that's not the best man) has even offered to be on my side and hold my bouquet for me! Again thanks for all the advice.

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